LADIES – aren’t guys complicated? Sometimes just ridiculously complicated? They run hot and cold, they stop texting you out of nowhere, or ALL they do is text you and NEVER seem to try to make plans. What gives?
The truth is that women think men are complicated, and men think women are complicated – but I THINK that this is because we simply don’t spend enough time communicating and trying to LEARN about each other.
For that very reason, I’m giving you some insight into the male mind (since I am a guy, and all). Here are five things that WOMEN (you) should learn about MEN (us!). See you on the other side!
We really aren’t so complicated after all – and I know you’re not either! We need to work on having more open dialogue with each other instead of making assumptions and jumping to conclusions. If we all make that pledge and work together, I know we can make dating suck so much less!
Are you with me? Let me know in the comments below. Let’s make it happen!
Summary –
1. We want to protect you.
We know that you don’t “need” us, but we want you to want us.
There are certain things that are embedded in our DNA. One of them is a desire to protect the women in our lives. This includes mothers, sisters, daughters, and especially significant others.
A real knight in shining armor can protect a woman by being her support system, and encouraging her in all areas of life. He can take care of her when she’s sick, stand by her side during hard times, and make her feel safe and secure.
2. We really do think you look beautiful without makeup.
Men can appreciate the results of well-applied makeup. We may not know anything about shading and contouring, but, damn, you look good!
But you know when else you look pretty? When you first wake up. When your hair’s a mess, and you just tossed on a t-shirt and sweatpants. It’s a different kind of good, but trust me, it’s still good.
3. We want to make you happy and for you to tell us how.
Sometimes men might not know exactly how to make you happy, but that’s not going to stop us from trying. You can make the process go a lot smoother, by being open and honest about what you want.
4. You are good enough.
If we have committed ourselves to you, it’s because you are what we want. We think you are beautiful, sexy, smart, and funny.
Some men just aren’t as affectionate or communicative about their feelings. So it’s important to realize that if a man is committed to you, this might be his best way of showing you how much he loves you. You are the person he wants.
5. We want to know that you appreciate us.
We don’t need any grand gestures or some sort of tit-for-tat relationship, but we begin to feel feel discouraged if our efforts go unnoticed.
So take a moment and tell the man in your life that you appreciate what he does. Those simple words will make his day.
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This article originally appeared on James Michael Sama’s Blog
Photo credit: Getty Images
You Lost Me At Knight in Shining Armor BS – there are no dragons, she is not a Princess and Life isn’t a Disney fantasy. The last thing I want to be around is a she- widget loudly proclaiming how Strong, Independent and Yadd-Yards she while at the same time bemoaning that all the Good Men won’t come to her ‘rescue’
F-that. She got herself into the Shiite, she can waddle her way back out of it with out me. No more White Knighting or Capt Save-a-ho
Great piece. It is good to know what the men are thinking other than what we stereotypically know. Thanks for sharing this 🙂