You could be missing your chance at true love by wasting your time with the wrong partner. Has that ever happened to you?
You’re toiling away on the night shift, as any good man should be. You receive a call in the early morning hours from the woman you have been in a relationship with for some time. She has called to give you the news that she is at your condo to search your locked filing cabinet that she has been eying for some time now. What do you say?
Since I have lived this scenario, I laughed and said “Go ahead.” Her clever plot to ambush me was foiled with two words. She then used a butter knife to open her perceived treasure chest of lies, which turned out to just be business documents I save, and keep locked because I lost the key long ago.
This is the perfect example of:
Miss. I will never trust you.
The most important thing to know about this woman is that she most likely will never trust you. The time required to gamble on the faint chance of her trusting is not worth the effort. She has been damaged so deep that she is always looking for “clues” that will lead her to some sinister elaborate lie. The only thing she will accomplish with her amazing detective skills is to degrade the relationship and make you feel imprisoned. You can’t change her, time is valuable, If you see signs of her inner detective, or if she is always trying to test you, or catch you in a lie. Your privacy and time are valuable, have the courage to seek another.
Miss: I just want to have fun.
This creature of the night will be easily recognizable. Her dating profile will be filled with club pictures. She will talk about how she just wants to “pop bottles” and “live for the moment,” and will judge the opposite sex on how much “swag” they have. I dare you to ask her what books she has read in the past twelve months. (At most, you will probably hear 50 Shades of Grey) I don’t pass judgment on anyone, but I can’t build a future with someone who is just looking for the next free “VIP” bottle service, Can you?
Miss: I just want to message endlessly.
Yes I get it, meeting people online can be dangerous, but popping bottles in the club every weekend is bringing these ladies one drink away from a rufinol induced night of one-sided criminal love. She is already putting herself in danger on a consistent basis. Don’t be the one wasting time with weeks of messaging, only to meet and not be able to be in her presence for an extended period. If she is interested enough to message you, it’s time to set a date.
Miss: I don’t have sex on the first date.
If she is taking the time to address this point in a dating profile, that means she has most likely been ravaged by the wolves of the online dating world a little too often on the first encounter. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex on the first date, but this woman will be obsessed with it long past the first date. This does not mean she is a bad person, but she does have some issues to address. My philosophy is that a relationship should progress naturally, and when she is obsessed with not having sex, it interrupts that forward progress. When forward progress has stopped, it’s time to move on.
Miss: I’m so independent.
Don’t confuse this woman with an actual independent woman. I have observed that anyone having to announce to the world that they are “independent” or that they are “nice” is usually putting up a facade to compensate for something else. They will be stubborn, uncompromising, and will always have the need to be right at any cost. Guard your time, and move on.
These are just some of the women I have encountered in the online dating world, there are many more, share some of the time-wasters you have encountered in the comments.
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