Believe it or not, there are certain women you should really avoid If you want your sanity, trust me they will make you miserable if you don’t. Before you commit fully to that relationship, observe carefully and if you find these signs and patterns in the woman you are dating, then you may be heading to a long time of heartache if you proceed. Here are five types of women that will make you miserable if you date than in my opinion.
If you’re a guy who’s still trying to figure out your life, you know, your life is on course, but you’re not there yet and you’re looking for a woman you can take seriously, then you should avoid spendthrift because they will make you spend without thinking. Spendthrift values possession over people, so once she sees you, she will suddenly need everything in the world and not even be willing to contribute on any kind of level. After all, aren’t you the man? She expects you to provide it and if you can’t, she will make you feel bad about it, and may even sacrifice you and the relationship, especially when someone else who has bigger, higher, or nicer resources approaches her or tempts her with it.
Don’t get me wrong, everybody likes to acquire the finer things in life. However, there must be a limit. You know, moderation should be the keyword here. If she will go to every single length just to acquire material things without taking your feelings, your thoughts into consideration, then this is not a woman you want to settle with.
This is a no-brainer. If you’re always with a woman who never tells you the truth or tells you half-truths or tells you what they call white lies, then you need to be cautious.
I’m not saying don’t date her, but I’m saying approach this dating game with serious caution. Listen, I don’t think that I need to say too much where this is concerned, because no one wants to be with a liar. How are you going to trust her? How are you going to entrust your life to her?
If you cannot trust her in the things that she says she will do, then what’s the point? It’s a no-brainer.
The Chronic Flirt.
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Now, these women are all over, all over the place. Literally, turn your back and she’ll most likely be flirting with every Tom, Dick, and Harry, including your best friends. How do you trust a woman who can’t even stay true to you?
Listen, the truth is, everyone likes to flirt. Every now and again, ever so often. But the reason why chronic flirts are a problem is that they easily invite every Tom, Dick, and Harry into their lives and end up in very tricky situations where she’s going to have to choose between you and these other guys she’s flirting with on a regular.
It’s just a matter of time before someone else returns that same energy and they find themselves in a compromising situation. You should not trust women who just flirt with anybody, because typically when you meet a woman who really likes you, she has no time for anybody else. She may be polite with people with other guys, but as far as flirting is concerned, that will be completely out of her books.
So, be very cautious, be very wary, you know, for such a woman. Flirting is a game, and she doesn’t stop until she gets burnt. Usually, when she gets burnt, your relationship will be in jeopardy and a broken heart for you is imminent. Avoid her like a plague, else, she’ll make you miserable.
The Insecure Woman.
Have you ever dated someone who’s insecure? Oh, my God. It is physically, emotionally, and mentally draining. Meaning, they’re insecure about everything. She will not allow you to have female friends. She will not allow you to engage with anybody. If you’re on your phone, she’s busy looking into it to see who you’re chatting with, you know, and that kind of thing.
But I must quickly say that, if you are that guy who’s contributing to her insecurity, then stop it. If there are things that you are doing to make her feel insecure, then you want to check yourself. But if she’s naturally insecure, does not trust anybody, she feels like everybody else is out to get her.
If she feels like every woman who as much as looks at you want to snatch you from her, then you need to be careful because it’s unhealthy. And that level of insecurity is very, very damaging. It could put a strain on your relationship, a strain on your love, and everything else that matters to you. Insecurities, ugly dude. And it’s just a matter of time before you get fed up with all the shenanigans.
A woman who’s insecure. Yeah. Is not a woman that you should date. She will make you miserable.
The beauty-only woman or the narcissist.
Now, this is usually a person who is so in love with themselves, and they have an inflated sense of self-importance with such people. They’re very hard to please. They always think that they are the bee’s knees.
The sun literally shines out of their behinds and they’re not willing to come down to anybody else’s level. They’re entitled and have a constant excessive need for admiration from those around them. It’s unhealthy. And besides, you can’t always be singing her praises, even if she’s someone who has really done well for herself, she should be able to exercise some form of level-headedness.
If you date such a woman in your relationship, you’re always going to have to make her feel important. They thrive on that stuff. And I’m sorry. You’re always going to pale in comparison when it comes to her in the circles in which she moves in the way she understands love. It’s always going to be about her, how she looks, how she feels, how important she is, and should be in the relationship ship.
She will never put you on the same pedestal as herself because she sees you as beneath her. How can you date a woman who does not even see you as a co-equal? That’s really going to be a problem. And it wouldn’t take any level of intuition to know that from the start, from the get-go. Narcissistic people can be very difficult to be around, especially if you’re not the kind of person who is ready to sing their praises.
I know this list could be endless if we continue, but I have personally experienced these five women in my dating life, I can tell you, it was a miserable moment.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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