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If you’re a guy who’s a bit stuck on the love front, here are 6 crucial things GUARANTEED to attract the right girl for you.
Most men I speak to look at finding love in the wrong way. They’ll blame the ‘woman drought’ or ‘they’re all stuck up’ or ‘all the good ones are taken’ and a whole bunch of other stories that have very little to do with it.
Finding love is about having the right mindset & behaviors to match that mindset. You don’t need to be on umpteen dating apps, be a bazillionaire or have model looks to make this happen for yourself … you just need to take action.
So you can get the woman you want.
Here they are:
1. Put Yourself First
Never pedestal women by putting yourself in the pit. I get asked time and time again, “will she call?” or “does she like me”?
It doesn’t matter. Do you like you? Are you valuing yourself and doing things every day that move you closer to your goals?
THAT is what’s important. She could be a fleeting 5 minute fling or the love of your life … but if you’re constantly putting your own needs last, she won’t respect you.
Now, this isn’t to say that you become an arsehole and treat anyone as lesser than. It means that you’re a better version of yourself for EVERYONE around you (yes, even her) when you treat yourself with the utmost love & respect first.
And that includes having boundaries of what you will tolerate & what you won’t.
2. Get To Know Women
We’re not aliens … contrary to popular belief 😉 Spending time with women will help you build your understanding of what we’re about.
Women fall HARD for men when they can understand & empathize with us. The lightbulb comes on and she thinks, “OMG, a man who FINALLY gets me!”
We don’t operate like men do in many ways; so if you get frustrated that she’s not behaving like a man (i.e. complains when she’s cold, wants to talk about feelings, takes longer to get ready so she can look hot for you), then you’ll ALWAYS have your hands in the air, shouting ‘FREAKIN’ WOMEN!’.
Figure us out and you will be rewarded. Promise.
3. Date Different Women
A single guy (and girl) has every right to date a lot of different people. The point is to find the right person for you. Yeah? So how can you do that if you don’t put yourself out there?
Multiple dating builds up your self-esteem, teaches you how to regulate your emotions & attachments and helps you understand women on a deeper level.
It’ll also help you clarify what you really want. You’re not cheating on someone you’ve never declared you’re in an exclusive relationship with.
So get your butt out there & mingle!
4. Have A Positive Vibe
Wanna know why Eeyore is perpetually single? He’s the most miserable donkey on the planet!
Your vibe attracts your tribe … and that includes women. You don’t have to be the loudest guy in the room – you could be introverted af … it’s irrelevant.
If you’re happy and positive, then OBVIOUSLY this is going to attract a woman (or many) to you. We LOVE being around positive, fun men.
So smile more, laugh at the world & it’ll make her wonder what you’ve been up to.
5. You’re In Control Of Your Emotions
You don’t let a woman’s behavior rattle you … nor do you buy into your own insecurities. Getting a handle on your emotions can be a tough gig when you’ve had negative past experiences – but it’s more important than anything else on this list.
Emotional intelligence is incredibly intoxicating to women. When we’re with a guy who’s “got it handled’” we feel safe.
6. Be Persistent
Follow up is where the sales happen. Now just to be clear, stalking and hassling her when she’s given you a flat out ‘NO’ is crossing the line. But sometimes it can take a woman a little time to warm up to you.
This is where you need to build a great rapport with her and build that relationship of banter, fun & flirting straight off the bat. Your goal is to persist, then pull back so she misses you, persist a little again, then pull back again.
This will hit her attraction trigger and leave her loving being around you … and wondering what you’re up to while you’re away.
Ains 🙂
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Originally Published on Have the Woman You Want
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