#1. Catch and release
“Catch and release” is like Tom and Jerry. But this time is not funny because you are Jerry. Even the Toms become dissatisfied with their behavior. It is when a person hooks up with many people. But does not get attached to them in any form. You know, the type to kick you out before offering you coffee.
“Catch and release” occurs because you or the person have negative commitment beliefs. While you wait for Mr. Right or Mrs. Forever, you see other people. But none of them makes you want to change your relationship status. Instead, you answer your body’s calling.
Sometimes, these catchers appear disrespectful. They say no one wants a long-term relationship with them. Or ask why prettier people won’t date them so they can settle down with someone. Their comments and word choice cause you to feel like an option even on the first date.
#2. Cuffing Season
Not everyone enjoys singledom. Nope. Even happy single people have second thoughts during the fall and winter months. It is like a summer fling. But the heater is on, and piles of comforters and sheets lie around.
In the winter, frozen treats sell like water bottles on the hottest days. People feel loneliness more because the weather is gloomy, dark, and cold. Empty homes feel like caves. Plus, many men recently completed the No Nut November challenge. Yup, the streets are freezing, but under the sheets are hot. As the weather warms, you want to become an empty nester again.
#3. Recycling
Recycling is when you take “trash” back into your loving heart to ruin yourself a second time. Have people taken their ex-partners back and ended up happy in long, playful marriages? Yes. Recycling is not that scenario.
Recycling is when you or someone you dated returns to their ex. The ex-partner appeared to change. They say all the correct words. Soon, their behavior reveals the opposite. You don’t care because you have feelings, history, and chemistry with this person.
You recycle exes when you are not over them or have not healed your abandonment trauma.
#4. Textlationship
It is when you text your partner more than you see them face to face. Text is your primary form of interaction, despite not being long-distance. Many refer to it as the “talking stage” online. These unions are hellish because you burn out talking about yourself.
The person ghosts you when you have nothing interesting left to say. They are not brave enough to meet you in person. They could be catfishing (fake profile) or kittenfishing (misrepresented lifestyle). Or they have appearance insecurities. Assume you only want sex or they are not serious about dating. Either way, they wasted a lot of your time. Always try to meet the person or face-time to ensure someone is serious about you.
#5. Curve
Curves are a gigantic blow to your self-confidence. Even if you aren’t emotionally hurt, it will leave you confused. The person keeps treating you as more than a friend. But will evade commitment, marriage proposals, or relationship announcements.
- You are good enough for dates. But you cannot meet friends or family.
- You are a fantastic person to them, worthy of introductions and speeches. But you cannot be their boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife.
- You are a good husband or wife. But meeting their work friends or network colleagues is off-limits.
#6. Pie hunting
It is a hunter going after a hot mess. Have you watched the movie “Step-Father?” The primary character goes after divorced women. These ladies have disorderly children and traumatic dating histories. He saw them as easy, low-maintenance prey.
You don’t necessary need to have kids. Pie hunters like people with horrible exes and traumatic dating histories. They believe these types are easier to manipulate. Be careful who you attract when heartbroken and emotionally vulnerable. These people usually remind you of your past whenever you bring up concerns.
Thank you for reading this post.
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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