Stab the body and it heals, but injure the heart and the wound lasts a lifetime. – Mineko Iwasakihjh
When a woman falls in love with a man, there are times she may completely surrender to her feelings and emotions. She likes everything in him — his appearance, manner of talking, and behavior with her. She may see only the good in him, and convince herself not to notice the bad.
As relationships progress and get more realistic, one or both partners get too comfortable and stop paying as much attention as they used to each other. Eventually, the relationship begins to slowly break down, sometimes entering a point of no return. One day you wake up next to each other and realize you’ve become strangers — or worse — enemies.
The opposite can be true of course — in other cases, the love between two partners makes both of them better and the relationship grows and flourishes.
When it does happen that a woman loses interest in a man after some time of dating, it’s often a gradual process. Most people are usually unaware of. It may sneak up on them like a shadow once they’ve exhausted every bit of their strength in someone who doesn’t see them for who they really are. And here are some reasons why this happens.
1. She doesn’t feel good around you
If she doesn’t feel comfortable around, then it’s obviously an issue you need to worry about. When she feels uncomfortable when you are near her, there are plenty of red flags that can give away their feelings and let you know that there is a problem and something needs to change. There are certain topics that are off-limits, and she does not feel like they can be open with you. She is more likely to lie to avoid uncomfortable conversations or conversations that you do not agree upon.
Sit with her and tell her how you feel. Ask and understand what is bothering her and come to a common solution. Make her feel light and loved. Respect her opinions and make her happy. After all, communication is the key.
Accept your mistakes, if any, and build a stronger relationship.
2. She doesn’t feel supported
All good partners have one thing in common — they’re emotionally supportive. When you have a teammate in life — someone who stands beside you to help get you through life with ease — you can take on the world with a smile. But when you’re with a partner who is unsupportive and withdrawn, you can feel like you’re carrying the weight of life alone. And no one would appreciate this. When she doesn’t get what she deserves, things began to look very different from what she had imagined. “Maybe he wasn’t the guy I thought he was going to be as a partner.” You don’t want to be that guy, do you?
If you truly love someone, stand beside them when they need you, and give them the space they need to roam free and grow as a person.
3. Trust issues
Nobody wants a disloyal partner. If trust issues aren’t the number one cause of breakups, it has to be one of the leading causes. I’ve noticed that the problems most couples face are usually arguments that can be traced to insecurities masked as trust issues. Not having trust in a relationship can lead to major problems and might even end your relationship.
Communicate more and be willing to be open with each other. Let your partner know you are choosing to trust them instead of being suspicious. If you find yourself in situations that worry you, state your concerns openly. If your partner feels mistrust in you or you trust your partner less, be cautious to not blame them. Talk it out and let them hear your concerns.
4. She doesn’t feel loved
Loving your girlfriend and making her feel loved doesn’t always mean the same. Loving her doesn’t require action, but showing her that you love her does. Making her feel loved through your efforts strengthens the bond of the relationship, which benefits both partners.
The secret to feeling loved by your partner or by others in the world is surprisingly simple: Love yourself, first. What we experience from others is a reflection of what we experience inside ourselves. If you feel desperate for another person’s love, it’s a sign that you’re desperately in need of loving yourself.
That being said, an occasional action of sweetness and kindness towards your partner can take your relationship a long way.
5. You don’t fight for her
Love is worth fighting for. How much we are willing to fight for it, how much we are willing to suffer for it, and give up for it lets us know how true it really is. If you aren’t willing to fight for it, then you clearly don’t want it enough. And when you don’t want it that bad, it’s not worth staying. Be a good person and express how you truly feel. Don’t just stick around for the sake of it.
If she doesn’t feel appreciated, she will soon begin to question the relationship. And when you do not fight for her, she gets bored with how careless and undedicated you are to her. Every single loving relationship necessarily must be fought for. It’s the nature of relationships.
6. Someone else might be paying her attention
While you are busy with your own life, you might be ignoring your partner. While she is being ignored by you, someone else might be begging her for her attention. And when this happens, it is not a great feeling at all. You will experience pain, jealousy, and insecurity boiling inside you.
Before you lose her, know that a woman needs to know that she is desired and that you are happy to be with her. As soon as someone starts giving her the attention she craves, this can be enough to make her fall out of love with you. The minute someone else showers her with love, attention, and approval, know that it’s game over for you.
Affirm to your partner that you truly love her and show it to her. Make sure you don’t take her for granted.
Humble yourself and love your partner with all your heart. Never do anything that you wouldn’t want your partner to do.
Blessings and love!
This post was previously published on Medium.com.
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