Talia Goldstein says that these six tips will save you from singledom on Valentine’s Day.
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Singles these days have what I call “Dating ADD” – too many options and a mentality of always looking for the next best thing. You have no idea how many times I’ve heard of people being ON a date and catching their dates “swiping right” – just a few feet away. While finding a date in the digital age is not difficult, finding love or even in-person chemistry can be gruelling. Three Day Rule believes that a simple, honest approach is often the best route when it comes to getting the girl. So, whether you are stuck on how to initiate that first online dating message or are feeling lost planning the perfect first date, here are some tips to help you step up your dating game and snag yourself a date for Valentine’s Day:
Be Open Minded
You may be more close-minded than you think when it comes to who you think you want to date. Be open to getting to know someone who doesn’t necessarily fit your “type.” If someone offers to set you up or an unsuspecting person strikes up a conversation with you, just go with it and see what happens. We have lots of success stories from clients who showed an open mind and fell in love with someone who didn’t fit their usual “type”.
Unplug When You’re in Public
Whether you’re waiting at the bar for a friend or on the subway heading home from work, keep your phone in your pocket. Scrolling through Facebook or wearing earbuds makes you much harder to approach, and gives off the vibe that you are not open to conversation.
Be Bold!
Don’t be afraid to lock eyes with someone you are interested in. Start up a conversation with the cute girl next to you on the train or the woman you’ve been eyeing at the gym. You never know where it could lead.
Go Out with Your Single Friends
Make time to go out with your single friends once in a while – chances are, they are more like-minded and receptive to striking up conversations with strangers while you’re out (compared to your married friends or those in relationships who may just want to chat with you).
Ask Her Out… Immediately
As soon as you feel like you have made a connection through an online or in-person conversation, ask her out. If you’re asking her out in-person, don’t beat around the bush, as most women will either think you’re not interested or lack confidence. If you are online, it’s always better to take it offline sooner rather than later. Be polite and to the point: “Let’s continue the conversation in person. Are you free this week?” “Would love to hear more about your trip. Want to grab a drink this week?” It’s a nice touch to ask for her number and to give her a call to arrange the details and logistics of the date beforehand. But, there’s no need to speak to her for hours on the phone before the first date. Nothing beats an in-person meeting to assess the chemistry between you two!
Pick the Perfect First Date Location
So, she’s agreed to a date – great! If this is a first date, always ask her what area of town is convenient for her. From there, give her 2 options: one on the fancier side and one more casual, and then let her pick. She’ll love that you’re taking charge and giving options, and you don’t run the risk of making her uncomfortable by surprising her with something outside of her comfort zone. That being said, pick somewhere you can afford so you’re comfortable picking up the tab. You can always find a bar with happy hour specials. If money isn’t an issue, hotel bars are a great choice.
Little Things to Keep in Mind
- Send a reminder text or email the morning of, or the night before the date, to confirm that it’s still on.
- Try to ask more questions than you answer. Of course you both want to get to know each other, but nobody enjoys sharing drinks with someone who nervously babbles about themselves for an hour.
- Keep in mind that an ideal first date should last no longer than 45 min – 1 hour over drinks. Short amounts of time leads to mystery/leaving her wanting more.
- Don’t suggest coffee – it’s not a good idea because of bad ambiance and non-flattering lighting.
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Headquartered in Los Angeles, Three Day Rule is a leading personalized matchmaking company backed by Match. With matchmakers in Los Angeles, San Francisco, New York, Chicago, Boston and Washington DC, the company plans to be in 20 markets by the end of 2015. Three Day Rule’s team of world-class matchmakers act as personal dating concierges for their clients by hand-selecting, vetting, and personally meeting every potential match before making any formal introductions.
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