Do you fancy dating a man in his 40s?
If so, you need to be aware of the qualities they’re looking for in their potential life partner.
At the start of their dating life, no one has any clear idea of what they want. They don’t even know who they are looking for. But as they age, they figure out their likes and dislikes more.
They get a clearer idea with every failure, success, mistake, and heartbreak.
If you’ve dated enough, you’d have already realized men in their 40s aren’t like the ones in their 30s or 20s. Their preferences are quite different, and they’re pretty particular about it.
A man in his 40s will most likely have his preferences set, so be familiar with the qualities he may expect of you.
Here are the 7 qualities men in their 40s may want in a woman.
Everyone wants their partner to be loyal to them. But young people may overlook this in want of other elements. But a 40-year-old man has enough relationship experience to value the real deal.
Most have had experience with disloyal partners in such a long dating career. And that has made them appreciate loyalty a lot more.
They want someone reliable and trustworthy. Men don’t wish to be worried about their partners all the time. And they don’t have the desire to manage their woman’s conduct around others.
In their 40s, the men have already been through a lot of hardships. So, they don’t want their relationship to add to it.
They like women who love to laugh and do it often. They want to be around someone they can enjoy and who makes them laugh.
Everything in their other areas of life is so sober that they desire to be playful with their partner. And a shared sense of humor allows them to be comfortable around their partner.
Men, in general, don’t like drama. But the older men especially don’t have the bandwidth for the daily drama. It’s not that they don’t care enough. Instead, they know better behavior is possible, and they desire that.
Everyone has to go through ups and downs in their life. But you can’t expect them to tolerate constant dramatic clashes. There are healthier ways to communicate than emotional blackmails or passive-aggressive behavior.
You’ll need to have better control over your mood swings. Open communication about anything that upsets you will help. It’ll save your time, energy, love, and, ultimately, your relationship.
Every adult carries some baggage from past relationships. But most men in their 40s have some extra responsibilities — kids.
If you want to be with men who already have kids, you can’t act like a kid yourself. You’ll need to understand that the kids may be essential to your partner’s life. You can’t be jealous of the kids.
You need to accept them with everything. You may not be their priority, so know well before partnering with such men. But don’t try to sabotage their other relationships. You may end up self-sabotaging.
Men in their 40s need warmth from their partners. They like to be with someone who’s naturally loving and caring.
You don’t need to be motherly with them but understand that no one likes to be treated coldly — especially by their partners.
They want someone who is emotionally mature and doesn’t need unhealthy ways to find love. So the warmth in your heart may attract them more toward you.
The men have lived for over 40 years. So, naturally, they’ll have some set patterns governing their lives.
You may desire them to be a certain way. But change is difficult for everyone. Let alone a man with such experience. So communicate your wishes but also try to understand their life better.
They’ve had their fair share of traumas that prompted their way of living. So, unfortunately, you can’t suddenly waltz into their life, demanding them to change. Most likely, they won’t ever.
Confidence looks attractive to everyone. But older men love it even more. They don’t want to invest all the time and energy into making you feel secure. Being with you shouldn’t be emotionally draining.
They like women who are aware of what they bring into the relationship. You should have a can-do attitude for everything rather than a victim mentality. You should feel self-sufficient to work things out better.
Having achieved so much in their lives, men desire women who have their passions. You should not be dependent on anyone — not even them.
These behaviors aren’t too much to expect from a partner. But if you don’t have or want to exhibit such qualities, it’s better to step away from such relationships.
You should also be clear about what you are looking for. Understand what you want before placing any expectations on it. Don’t get into a relationship blindly and get stuck with someone you don’t want.
Also, don’t try to mold them to your idea of the ideal man. Instead, be with someone who desires to be with you.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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