They started it!
By Estee Kahn
Ah, siblings. We may love them and be willing to kill for them, it doesn’t stop us from sometimes wanting to kill them. And if you’re going to fall in love with someone who is tight with their siblings, there are a few things you need to know.
Especially if you don’t have a sibling, since there are some things you can never really understand. Or maybe you’re not super tight with your brother or sister. Watching them in television shows or in movies isn’t quite the same thing.
Hollywood might understand much about people and their psychology but it cannot fully understand these 8 truths about REAL sibling bonds.
We are siblings. It’s what we do. Just because we fight every once in a while (ok….probably more often than that) doesn’t mean we are horrible people and that there’s something wrong. It’s normal. We’re normal (hey-normal is all relative, right?).
And don’t worry, you don’t have to fix it. In fact, better if you just stay out of it.
We might get older and supposedly wiser and while we might grow out of some habits … well fighting with our siblings will not be one of them.
Don’t worry, we won’t (necessarily) fight with you the same way.
Ok, let’s be real. Most of them time we fight like 3-year-olds and are pretty darn proud of it.
We can be mean and fight with them whenever we want but if anyone else does it … they’d better look out.
And that means you, too. We will be loyal to you, but we won’t abandon our siblings. And we definitely don’t want to hear you talking bad about our brothers and sisters!
One time it might be about jealousy, the next about them ruining your plans and the next moment it can just be because you are bored. There really is no one reason.
And even if it’s about you, let us handle it.
Sure, there might a few “accidents” here or there such as hand spasms or foot spasms that result in a slap or kick. But those are purely uncontrollable. We would never willingly hurt our beloved siblings.
And even if we are rough with our brothers or sisters, that doesn’t mean we will be with you. Siblings are different!
Of course we will always blame out siblings for something we did wrong to our parents. But we are also just as likely to come the second they call to bail them out of jail … not that we’ll ever let them live it down.
And if you become part of our family, that’ll extend to you, too.
No matter what we do, we know that we love each other as only siblings can and that whenever it comes down to it, we will always be there for each other.
And that’s a good thing. Just don’t ever try to get in the way of that bond.
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