HOW FAR GUYS HAVE SLID
American culture. Everyone is confused. Gender roles are in question. Some men are feminine. Many women are masculine. In the confusion of it all stand a room full of ladies. Each one dresses in their Friday night best. Around them guys are handsome & clean cut. I hold my glass of Johnny Walker. I’m the only one with a scotch. I’m about to watch a sh** show. You want to see it? Read on.
I observe as every guy sits. A group of ladies walk over. They’ve been eyeing the group for a while. Me? I’m sitting with my girlfriend. We’re having a good time. I motion for her to watch.
She smirks. She knows.
We watch as the ladies introduce themselves. All of them talk. All of them laugh. Looks like a great time…but after a half hour not one guy offers them a seat. I can’t believe it. Neither can my girlfriend. A guy motions. She approaches. She nods. The ladies proceed to close out the tab. The ladies pay.
Then guys walk off.
No one is there.
My girlfriend leans over, “Did they just walk out on the bill?”
I shake my head.
“No, they just stuck them with the bill.”
Not only were these young ladies not given common courtesy, but they also footed the bill. The ladies looked awkward and out of place.
Were they ignored for a reason?
TIMES HAVE CHANGED
I could never imagine treating a lady this way. I can’t imagine my daughter being in those ladies’ position. How a group of attractive young women can stand for an entire social engagement is beyond me.
They get stuck with a bill at the end. The faces the ladies made told me they were not expecting that.
These guys.
I digress.
I’m clearly a different type. Unfortunately, most young guys and women are of a different type. Both exist in a society where egalitarianism is confused with being identical.
EQUALITY IS NOT IDENTICAL
Ladies. Men. To be equal does not mean identical. You can be equal to me, and nothing like me. In math simple examples exist.
3.9+0.1= 4
3.0+1.0= 4
4.0+0.0= 4
2.0+2.0= 4
Every one of those examples are completely different. Despite their differences each one is equal.
Ladies many of you are confused about equality. Most modern people are struggling because they are trying to be identical to one another. This flawed mindset creates chaos, confusion, and awkwardness.
This is exactly what I witnessed at the bar.
IF IDENTICAL IS WHAT YOU WANT
If we all want to be identical there are zero issues with what happened. There is zero issue with a woman standing all night long if she is identical to a man. Men stand all the time. There is zero issue with a woman paying for everyone if she identical to a man. Men frequently pay for women and their girlfriends. There is zero issue with getting nothing but a man’s time for your money if you’re identical. Men frequently get nothing but a woman’s time when they pursue them.
There is never any outrage about these situations affecting guys. Guys know this end is a possibility. Not every dollar invested in a woman will yield a favorable result.
Guys call it pay to play. Play another day. Pay another day.
WE NEED TO BE OURSELVES
Here’s the thing. Women should not want to be men. Men should not strive to be women. I don’t claim to be an expert on any world but my world.
Society needs to accept its recent innovations might not be working. Everything post 1970 is guesswork. Everyone came up with new ideas. New ideas should be tested. When I look at the results, I’m not too sure the ideas were good.
I would never want to be those guys. In my world having ladies stand around all night is a weak scene. What’s weaker is having them pay the bill. I don’t know how a woman can believe a man will take care of a family if he can’t buy a drink or offer a chair.
I don’t see women identical to men. I think that is a fool’s quest. If a woman knows how to be a lady, she’s treated like one. Period. Then again. Maybe the issue was none of them were ladies? Read the story again. What do you all think?
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About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t”. Christopher has opened over 7 businesses in his 15-year career. Christopher’s purpose is to take advantage of various market-driven opportunities. Christopher is a certified Master Project Manager (MPM), and Accredited Financial Analyst (AFA). Christopher previously held his Series 65 securities license examination and was a Master Financial Planner (MFP). Christopher also held his General Lines — Life, Accident, Health & HMO. Christopher has managed a combined 286mm USD in reported Assets Under Management & Assets Under Advisement. Christopher has work experience in 33 countries, raised over 50mm USD for various businesses, and grossed over 13.0mm in his personal career. Christopher worked in the highly technical industries of: biotechnology, finance, securities, manufacturing, real estate, and residential mortgages. Christopher is a United States Air Force Veteran. Christopher has a passion for family, competitive sports, fishing, martial arts and advocacy for entrepreneurs. Christopher provides self-help classes for up-and-coming entrepreneurs. Christopher’s passion to mentor comes from belief that entrepreneurs need guidance. The world is full of conflicting information about entrepreneur identity. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.
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