So we aren’t even married yet. Honestly, I don’t know if you exist. I don’t know if I’ve even met you, but I wanted to write a letter to say thanks anyway. I’m writing this letter because I knew what I was waiting for and, if we’ve made that step, I know you deserve this gratitude. When they day comes, I’ll know, and I hope you read this letter over your morning coffee, knowing it was written for you.
You Have Patience
Thank you sweetheart. Thank you for having the patience to walk through a relationship with a once broken soul. As a single father, the dating world was completely different than the first time through. Where priorities first consisted of finding that person that made you smile and you could have a good time with, any thought of the “future” this time around required so much more. While I was pretty certain that would be hard to find, I was determined to wait until I did. You knew I had things to work on. You knew that behind my mask of confidence and humor, I had fears of accepting that what I truly wanted was out there. You have patience. Thank you.
You Are My Best Friend
Thank you for being my best friend. I knew that what I wanted was a true teammate; you and me against, or for, the world. Someone I could sit back with and laugh as we watch people in public. Someone I could share inside jokes with, brightest dreams and deepest fears, without ever, once, worrying that trust would be misused. We share failures and success with the zest that keeps us wanting more. You are my best friend. Thank you.
You Inspire Me
Thank you for being the one that helps me succeed. It’s not that I need you for me to be a better man, it’s that you inspire me to be a better man. It’s the little things, like showing faith in me, the pride you have standing beside me in a crowded room, even that annoying way you make me change what I’m wearing before an important event. You may not know it, but it’s those things that help fuel my desire to succeed. I aim to do the same for you, every chance I get. You inspire me. Thank you.
You Love My Children
Thank you for being a second mother to my children. It was important for me to show my kids that a true, healthy, loving relationship could exist. I knew my children would learn much of what they knew of love from me. After messing it up the first time around, I was determined to introduce nothing but the best to their lives. In you, I found a woman I could honor with love and affection, and them see the same returned to me. I wasn’t sure I could ever find someone that could appreciate and love my children the way that you do. You love my children. Thank you.
You Completed My Family
Thank you for allowing me into your life. Surely you had a family as well. You took a major step allowing me to step in and help with them. I am certain you would worry, as much as I, about who would be worthy to be a part of your beautiful life. You realized that, before anything, I was meant to be in a family. I was meant to care and provide, teach and encourage. I was meant to be part of a complete family. You completed my family. Thank you.
You Are Perfectly Imperfect
Again, I may or may not have met you yet, but I knew who you were the day I started to believe that a second chance was possible. I don’t know how long it took to run into you, how funny the story of our meeting will be or what the moment was when we both “knew”. The only thing I know is that, without you, I would have never taken this walk again. You see, I long ago realized that I am not perfect. I long ago realized that no one is perfect. Sure, you have moments when you aren’t at your best, we all do. You have moments where you need more than you can give, we all do. Those moments you are down only help illuminate the way you shine. The world is imperfect and I could have only hoped to find the one who could perfectly allow me to appreciate that. You are perfectly imperfect. Thank you.
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