What starts in the kitchen, ends between the sheets. We’ve all heard, “you are what you eat.” I’ll just affirm that it’s true – and no one wants to be fast, easy or cheap.
By 3am the late night love-making had taken on a lucid sheen. We’d both drifted off much earlier in the evening, yet awoke together aroused and vibrating with intense energy.
Joe had just finished reading David Deida’s book of sexual awakening, The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover. It was as if he had embodied every word of that text and was thus granted magic powers.
Every stroke of his fingertips against my skin, and the light pressure of his lips against my neck felt intuitive and masterful. I shuddered with pleasure over and over. What was his secret? Was it the book? The book was step two. Step one isn’t a secret at all, and I’ll divulge all with an interesting twist that may surprise you.
One of my deepest passions is indulging in food that I like to call, “Sensual Food.” It’s simply food that’s sourced. My husband Joe recently began calling us sorcerers. No, not wizards-even though that love-making session made me think he had magical powers; we just want to know the source of our food. If the food grew in rich, fertile soil (we like it dirty), and was unaltered from that state where it was once in the earth, it’s game. We like it real. No plastic, no factory, no box.
We’ve all heard, “you are what you eat.” Without all of the scientific jargon, I’ll just affirm that it’s true-and no one wants to be fast, easy or cheap. We want that vibrant, colorful food that took time to grow, and time to cultivate. Just like a real relationship. They require time, effort, they have to be nourished just as real food needs water to grow and flourish.
So what’s the secret? What starts in the kitchen, ends between the sheets. Let me rephrase. It doesn’t end between the sheets, if it’s done right. It never ends. It just keeps going- and growing, if you feed it what it needs. “It” is you and I. Sensual food lights the fire. To shed some light on the contrary, let’s consider what happens when we eat like crap. The body doesn’t function well, and that includes everything, even libido (sex drive). It’s a real challenge to make love when your libido is dead. What keeps the libido amped? Physical activity and a positive mindset are two components, but the food really comes first.
What’s Valentine’s Day without a nice romantic dinner? Yes, we’ll all eat on Valentine’s Day, so choose wisely if your plan for the evening ends with intimate connection. Here are some sensual foods that increase libido: asparagus, avocado, salmon, walnuts, oysters, figs and apricots. There’s so many more, and the rule of thumb is, if it grew in the dirt, and made it to your plate looking about that same, it’s a libido booster. If it nourishes the body, it will boost the libido.
There’s actually no secret at all. That magical love-making session began in the kitchen. I’ve never understood adage, “A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” I’ll assure you that it’s the way to anyone’s heart! If you’re going to blow her mind, then focus your effort on dinner (and don’t forget to read the book).
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