This comment of the day is by Aubri on the post “Yes, Chivalry and Equality CAN Co-Exist”.
The inequality manifests when the same gesture made by a woman towards a man is not also accepted graciously. I have no problem letting a man open a door for me, but men do not seem to accept a woman acting chivalrous of her own accord. I have experienced this many many times where I get to the door first and offer this chivalrous gesture, holding the door open for a man to walk through and I’m met with this dance where they try to take over holding the door rather than accepting the gesture and walking through. The fact that chivalry is a concept attributed to male actions and not a general human action is what shows that it is still imbedded in sexism and inequality. A woman should also be able to open car doors for men or pull out a chair for men. If that feels backwards and uncomfortable then there is still a sexist leaning towards the gesture. If we are equal, these gestures should not be gender based, but given and received comfortably by both genders.