Author Jay Cradeur shares his views on the subtle power of the feminine that is rarely acknowledged by the masculine.
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I wrote the following words several years ago. At the time, all of my experiences with women were in America. Having spent the last 15 months in Southeast Asia, I have now also experienced women from different cultures (Thailand, Vietnam, Malaysia and Singapore). I made many friends during my travels, with women in their twenties to women in their late sixties. I am even more convinced that what I wrote then is still accurate and represents a fundamental truth between men and women. Check it out and see what you think.
“It is a challenge to find a man who truly respects the wisdom of women. Most men, mired in the pathology of patriarchy, can’t see clearly through the darkened lens. Until a man surrenders to the power/divine connection/creative force of a woman (any woman, not necessarily his partner) and is humbled by the living goddess within the feminine form, he will hold women as a second-class citizen. Social conditioning makes it so.
Women, on the other hand, in order to warrant said respect, must do the heavy lifting to find and nurture the goddess within. European women do this better than our American sisters. Sadly, many women simply do not know of the power they wield. Therefore they invite the patriarchal dismissal, unaware that a man in their life is a choice and not a result of need.
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I used the word Goddess is another post I recently wrote and received some masculine backlash. Many men don’t seem to want to acknowledge the divinity that lies within both men and women. I saw this dynamic on powerful display in Thailand. The Thai men I met and observed showed very little respect to the women. They do not see what you or I may see. There is a massive undercurrent of powerful feminine energy that lies dormant and unrecognized in the world. It is for this reason, I believe, many Thai women prefer to find a ‘farong’ or westerner as a life partner. To the Thai women, we the westerners offer a far more appreciate, loving and nurturing relationship. While it is true that many Thai women have finances as their primary motive for a farong, this does not denigrate the authentic attraction to and human need for love and adoration from one’s partner.
I wrote the original piece for I had been guilty of objectifying women. I still objectify women from time to time. I see this in myself, and work to remember that we are all equal, and that when I am seeing things clearly and in truth, the feminine in my life show up with a splendor and grace and generosity that still takes my breath away. I am inviting a mutual respect back and forth across the sexual divide. Men are put on a pedestal from birth just for being born a man. The invitation is to bring all of us up onto the pedestal where we all deserve, as a matter of birthright, to be.
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I’m with you on this one Jay. Had you asked me four years ago, I wouldn’t have known what you’re on about. It took a real Goddess to open my eyes. First of all I do not like the word Goddess (or God) if it is associated with a blind obsession of a general admiration. I use the word Goddess in this context because it best describes the overwhelming sensation I get from any interaction with this person. I can totally relate to other men that take issues with seeing women in general as uber-beings. By uncritically attributing special properties… Read more »
I sense in the comments some fear that women might actually take this advice. Funny how men get to be revered for strength and also treated tenderly (we women are always told to mind a man’s ego). The fear is rooted in the possibility that whatever these men are doing will no longer ‘do’, that the women in their lives will want more than they are willing to give, and will in turn leave them. The notion that a woman has no business expecting anything from the men in her life is pervasive. But even though I don’t like the… Read more »
Joe, Ain’t it funny how we all seem to have our head stuck in our own navel, and just refuse to walk that mile in someone else’s shoes? You say that women are always told to mind a man’s ego. But I guess you’ve never considered the adage of “Happy wife, happy life!” that men are correspondingly fed? The notion that a woman, any woman, in a relationship always has a scapegoat for not feeling fulfilled in any perspective, and in fact always expects “everything” from the men in her life. Which in turns begs the question. If the man… Read more »
Thank you Joyce, I appreciate your comments. Thanks for reading and being willing to share your thoughts.
Calling a woman “human” is somehow offensive to you.
Fantastic.
“I used the word Goddess is another post I recently wrote and received some masculine backlash.”
Gee, probably because women aren’t actually goddesses.
Thanks 8Ball for your comments. I have had a completely different experience of women. I appreciate you for reading my article and telling the world how you feel. Much appreciated.
You come find me and tell me how “divine” you find women if one ever busts a blunt object on the side of your face.
Thanks for your feedback Frank. I always enjoy reading other men’s viewpoint of men and women. I appreciate it.
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While it is true that many Thai women have finances as their primary motive for a farong, this does not denigrate the authentic attraction to and human need for love and adoration from one’s partner. I think you’re fooling yourself that these women value respect over money. Try asking any of them if they’d ever date an unemployed man or one who works in McDonald’s, purely out of love for that man. Men are put on a pedestal from birth just for being born a man Utter nonsense. Men are the disposable gender and in this article, you are enabling… Read more »