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Dear Mr. Trump… can I call you Mr. Trump? Is that ok? I want you to be happy, that’s very important to me.
Before I get started, let me say this letter isn’t from all women. The Trumpettes surely won’t approve of this message. But this is from most women.
We see right through you. We have all known you at some point. Your ways are not unfamiliar to us. We see through you because we’ve been dealing with you our whole lives.
We heard you call women pigs. And disgusting. And stupid. And bimbos.
We watched as you called a former Ms. Universe “Ms. Piggy” and then spent four days continuing to insult her.
We see your weakness. Your lust for attention at any cost, your need to denigrate women. We see all of it. And we’re mad.
Yes. We’re mad. And fired up. And here’s the thing about us… we can be bitches.
Gone are the days where we question our power or our influence. We are strong. Smart. We know our worth and it doesn’t reside in the size of our bras or our skinny jeans. We build each other up. We have our sister’s backs. And our brother’s. So when you took on the former Ms. Universe, you took on all of us.
And right now you’ve got a lot of pissed off women to contend with. And let me remind you, Mr. Trump… hell hath no fury like a pissed off woman who’s tired of this sexist bullshit.
We heard you when you said we should “look for another place to work” if we experience workplace sexual harassment.
Your non-solution illustrates either your lack of understanding or lack of concern. Or both. Your attitude and ignorance on this is stunning. Your response, pathetic. We see you, and we see someone who’s in over their head.
We watched you interrupt a woman 51 times during a 90 minute debate.
While the better qualified, more knowledgeable woman was talking, you attempted to bulldoze right over her. We all know this game. It’s called male privilege. And it doesn’t look good on you, Mr. Trump. It makes you look weak. We see you, and we see a man who is so threatened by a woman speaking that you can’t even bear to let her finish. Sad.
And we see it rampant throughout your campaign and your proposed policies.
It’s in your paltry maternity leave proposal that leaves out fathers and LGBTQ and adoptive parents. And when you say that women who seek abortions should be punished. And when you refuse to consider supporting equal pay for women.
Your latest ad, in which your daughter, beaming with privilege and pride, says “being a mother is the most important job a woman can have,” didn’t go over so well with us, Mr. Trump.
We are different, us women.
We are not a homogenous army of fem-bots. We have different interests, goals and lives.
There is more to us than motherhood. Some of us revel in motherhood. Some of us don’t want to have children. And some of us can’t have children.
Our status as mothers has nothing to do with our worth. This ad, coupled with your policies show that you are tone deaf to the reality that women face and point to an antiquated attitude. One that keeps women as the caregivers and leaves men out of that equation.
We see you. And we see a man who has no business representing our interests in the Oval Office.
We heard you say no one would vote for Carly Fiorina “because of her face.”
We remember you calling women “a beautiful piece of ass” in Esquire Magazine.
We watch you say one thing, then say the opposite. Then refuse to admit any of it happened. Problem is, we can spot gas lighting from a mile away.
We recall the bit about all women being gold diggers in your memoir.
We cringe and hold our daughters a little closer when we are reminded that you said you’d date your daughter. If only she weren’t your daughter.
We remember when you called a lawyer “disgusting” for requesting a break during a trial to breastfeed.
We roll our eyes when we saw you try to dismiss Megyn Kelly after she had the nerve to ask you questions. At a debate. “Blood coming out of her wherever” was not lost on us. Most of us remember hearing such comments in Middle School.
We are horrified when we learn that you sent a journalist a picture of herselfwith the word “Dog” scrawled across it.
We seethe with anger when we read your tweet blaming military sexual assaulton the fact that women are in the military.
We haven’t forgotten your lurid tweet about Hillary Clinton not being able to “satisfy” her husband.
Not only do you not understand women, you seem to have an awful lot of contempt for them. This is not fitting for a man who wants to be President in the 21st Century.
Which leads me to this:
Make America Great Again.
We know exactly what you meant when you branded yourself with this slogan. It’s not-so-coded language for a time gone by. Your “great” America wasn’t so great for women and minorities and gay people.
We won’t go back.
We won’t be relegated to the kitchen.
We won’t be locked into a life where we have no choice over our bodies or whether we have babies.
We won’t accept your patronizing response to sexual harassment.
We won’t be silenced or demeaned any more.
We won’t be ridiculed for our weight or judged by our appearance.
We won’t be shamed for owning our sexuality.
We have come a long way since your days of when America was “great.”
We have busted our asses to get here and we’re not going back.
We are raising strong daughters who fight back against sexist school dress codes.
We are raising strong sons who aren’t afraid of their feelings and aren’t afraid of strong girls.
We are shutting down catcalling.
We are no longer letting ourselves be interrupted and drowned out in the board room.
We are locking arms with our sisters in solidarity when rapists are given a slap on the wrist.
We are shouting about every day sexism.
We are calling you out, Mr. Trump.
We will not go quietly into any good night. We are loud. We are in your face. And we don’t put up with the kind of bullshit you’re selling.
So maybe this isn’t your time, Mr. Trump. Maybe your time has passed.
Maybe you would have been more suited to the 1920s when women did not yet have the right to vote.
When marital rape was still legal.
Or the 1950’s when women largely stayed home and produced children and McCarthyism and blacklisting were acceptable.
Or perhaps 1930’s Germany would have been a better fit for you.
But now? Now is not your time.
We’re moving forward. All of us, smart men and women, have had enough of the tired gender roles. We’ve had enough of you and other weak, fearful men trying to stop progress.
We see you, Mr. Trump.
We see your sexism and your bigotry and your racism. We see right through you.
Remember. We can be bitches.
And bitches get shit done.
Bitches Vote.
See you on November 8, Mr. Trump.
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Absolutely excellent article, Gretchen – nice and strong, no nonsense, don’t-put-up-with-this-garbage stuff! I love it! Keep believing in yourself and all women – because I do!
You’d be far wiser to actually keep your own daughters far away from Bill Clinton than Donald. He’s demonstrated what he does on his own, and demonstrated his lies, and again with no apologies.
“We are shutting down catcalling.” Can you see this? http://ftw.usatoday.com/2016/10/julian-edelman-football-101-women-clinic-procamps-patriots-fans ““Hey man,” Edelman suddenly said, breaking his signing rhythm to turn to Ross. “Can you make sure one of your people is closer to me when we do these photos? People are, like, grabbing my ass and [expletive].”” It wasn’t women shutting down the sexual assault although they could have assault prevented it by not engaging in it. You’ll never see this called out in any article here and in most mainstream outlets if any at all. Even this article didn’t really call it out as much as simply reported… Read more »
To be honest, big guy, I don’t mind at all if some woman grabs my butt. Since most women would never do that unless she’s seriously turned on, then I consider it a compliment! If it did bother me slightly, I would just give her a high-status comment like, “Stop looking at my chest – I’ve got a brain, too, you know!” Just keep it light and maintain a cool, high-status, take-it-or-leave-it attitude. I would never be seriously offended!
@ OLIVER You know why you never get any replies? You’re not mean enough. You need to offend people every once in awhile. Just messing with you. You seem a decent person. I’ve been grabbed several times during my lifetime by strange women. I don’t think it was a power thing because it hasn’t happened in at least 10 years and when I was younger I was weight lifting and kick boxing so was in decent shape. I also drank on occasion and would consequently find myself in situations with drunk people. I think a huge distinction is that Edelman… Read more »
@ OLIVER I think there is a lot of context that gets lost especially when people take an extreme case can try to correlate it to a case on the other side of the spectrum. I had set a date up with a woman at a comedy club. There was a 2 drink minimum and made joked about how I was hoping that 2 drinks were enough to get her drunk. She smiled and said half a drink. I’ve come to understand that THAT would be a symptom of rape culture. I coud see there point, but then again she… Read more »
Appeal to emotion. “Or perhaps 1930’s Germany would have been a better fit for you” Actually, if we were to actually study 1930s Germany, rather then just cherry pick if for affect, we could draw a direct parallel to feminist ideology from the focal point of their rage (men as opposed to Jews), to the propaganda war and on down the line to this type of victim dance and that very appeal to emotion (that women will be put in chains because Trump talked about a couple of gold digging slut girls). This is how it works, folks. Are these… Read more »
I am mystified that you just attempted to paint a picture of men as a marginalized minority, who share any parallels with what Jewish people experienced at the hands of Nazi ideology. It is duplicitous at best. And just insane and offensive to Jewish people and what they had to survive. But hey, ten points for managing to be outraged at how you believe men are treated in this culture by 1. using degrading slurs against women such as, marginalizing women with “gold doing slut girls” and believing it’s okay to call women this in your speech about how abused… Read more »
You seem to have not understood what he was saying. Moreover, it is not the place of a woman to determine whether or not men are being marginalized.
Actually, it was a critique of feminist ideology, and how they twist the conversation into space, as well as how they hide behind “women” in justifying their hate and dismissal of men, so as to ignore the issues and continue the denial.
See, I was not talking about well women, the majority of women, just that small, dysfunctional group of man hating ones..
you’ve proved that out better then I could have, and I thank you for that.
Michael Kasdan,
I see you decided to pick on Zemus and Ian.
Like, Gretchen, I am sure you lack the courage to answer the challenge(s) I put forth. Why? Because, you cannot. You got nothing!!!!!
There is nothing (and I mean nothing) I detest in man more than cowardice.
I never expected a reply from someone like Gretchen. Women like her are so far gone….But you Michael are a typical wimpy spineless feminist man who likes low hanging fruit. MAN UP boy!!!!
So glad I no longer live there. It will take a full generation for ‘Merica to unf*ck itself.
Longer…Much longer. If ever.
Gretchen Kelly is such a hypocrite. She bashes men all the time.
For all who want to throw this argument in here, regarding Clinton laughing at the rape case she worked. She got the rapist to agree to a plea deal insuring that he would do jail time. She knew that a trial for rape rarely results in jail time. She also tried to refuse the case when the judge assigned it to her. He refused to let her off of the case. When she “laughed” about it, she was laughing at her naivete as a young lawyer who thought the system would be just in cases of rape. Hillary Clinton has… Read more »
THANK YOU. So tired of seeing that same BS repeated ad infinitum.
Yep, was thinking the same thing, just different. I could almost feel the extremist machine warming the glow plugs, ready to rumble to life, spewing forth it’s rhetoric, it’s hate, it’s fear. And that is the problem with extremism. The guy gave himself a black eye, but so to has she with her criminal actions, her blatant hate of men, but the extremist only sees the sins of the other while ignoring those very same sins of their own. Teflon Bill is the greatest example, the worst womanizer, sticking his dick into anything in a dress, disrespecting the very woman… Read more »
Every word of this…! Yup!
What a coincidence. My refusal to any longer be shamed, demeaned or ridiculed is why I’m voting for Trump.
So Trump is a man you respect? What about Trump do you sincerely like? And Who has shamed, demeaned and ridiculed you and how?
As a woman, how can you respect Hillary Clinton? She tried to bully, intimidate, and trash these women her husband sexually assaulted, groped, and disrespected Erin. Bill Clinton settled lawsuits (paid real $$$$$) to some of these women.
But, for some reason women like you and Gretchen seem to devalue these women. What they suffered at the hands of the Clinton’s is what is really ridiculed.
I don’t really know anything about him, nor do I care. He is simply a means by which I can drive a blow against those who hide behind identity politics in order to promote hatred and oppression against me and those like me, and have done so for most of my life. The left is in dire need of a wake up call, and I am willing to oblige them.
Nothing is accomplished by “blowing it up,” except to increase your own suffering. You’re on the wrong side of history, buddy. Not to mention morality. Have fun siding with the racist misogynist bigot.
“Nothing is accomplished by “blowing it up,” except to increase your own suffering.”
Gender feminism’s gift to women.
I am having fun. Thanks for the concern.
That makes no sense whatsoever.
So, I guess this means you will be voting for the smug elitist liar who is married to a sexual predator who has ACTUALLY sexually harassed, assaulted, groped, and disrespected lots of women. You will be voting for a woman who ACTUALLY went after many of these female victims of her husband’s thoroughly disgusting behavior. A feminist icon of all things. Yet, somehow this seems lost on you Gretchen. Your wrath is for Mr. Trump. Yes, his comments were lousy. But, were not Mrs. Clinton’s actions in seeking to bully and intimidate female victims of sexual assault at hands of… Read more »
Why is this aimed just at Trump? Hillary laughed as she got a pedophile rapist off the hook and years later laid cover fire for her rapist husband.
Ian, there is positively nothing that substantiated in the
….audio of Clinton that even hints at her laughing about what you suggest. Laughing, like crying, is a release of emotion. People sometimes cry when they are happy or laugh when they aren’t. I do it myself all the time. It’s just how I cope with things. If you are going to bring this up, at least also be fair enough to point out she asked to be taken off this case but was denied. She called it a ‘terrible case” but as a lawyer, she had a responsibility to do her job. As for child molesters…well Trump very well… Read more »
@ Erin “she asked to be taken off this case but was denied. She called it a ‘terrible case” but as a lawyer, she had a responsibility to do her job.” What people usually forget is that a lawyer’s job is to serve the interests of justice. It’s not to get convictions or to get people off. If she thought there were problems with the case, how was the interest of justice served by her getting a potentially innocent person jail time. What else would she mean about there being problems except that a reasonable jury might not believe that… Read more »
Erin, I am willing to say that Mr. Trump is a scoundrel. Pure and simple. He is who he is. The evidence is clear. But, why are you and people like Gretchen unwilling to say the same about Hillary when the evidence is also just as abundant? I wrote comments earlier that were not posted. I stated clearly that there is ample evidence that Mr. Trump and Mrs. Clinton were equally worthless. But, GMP is not posting my comments because it does not want to hear the truth. Only one side of things: the Clinton side. The truth always wins… Read more »
Oh, come on now. Han Solo is a “scoundrel”. Donald Trump is a degenerate, at the very least.
Also, I would like to know where you found that poll, though I admit am consistently flummoxed by how many women still support Trump unconditionally, despite even this latest skeletal unveiling.
“I admit am consistently flummoxed by how many women still support Trump unconditionally, despite even this latest skeletal unveiling.” Several dynamics are at work here: 1) among women the ones with the loudest voices opposing Trump tend to be your college educated white females. These women also tend to liberal and feminist. What’s ironic is research show that most of these women ACTUALLY like to date and have sex with men that are non feminist (i.e., more like Mr. Trump). 2) Women know other women very well. So, when they look at Hillary Clinton they are able to easily see… Read more »
BC isn’t much better… but I do prefer him, just a little bit. Where I come from, if a man calls your daughter “a piece of ass”, being OK with it isn’t an option.
See Gretchen’s above comment for the actual facts about the “laughing” incident so often quoted by conspriracy theorists and hacks.