We’re looking for short quotes with man-to-man advice.
We’re looking for quotes from real-life guys who have been divorced or separated. We can quote you anonymously, or use your name, and include a link to your blog/social media, or whatever you like.
Question:
What did you learn from your divorce that you wish you’d known when you were married?
150 word maximum. Ideally less than 50-75 words.
We’re talking man-to-man advice, here. Things you wish someone had told you, and that you’d tell your own brother or best friend if he asked.
Feel free to answer in the comments (leave your contact info if you want to be quoted by your name).
Or email [email protected] with “Divorced Men Quotes” in the subject line.
Thank you!
Are you a man who has been divorced? –> What did you learn from your divorce that you wish you’d known when you were married?
— joanna schroeder (@iproposethis) April 14, 2015
Photo: Flickr/Nikos Koutoulas
Do everything in your power to avoid conflict. Family court is crippling for your financial and emotional state. Avoid marriage if you can. The moment you marry your goods, home and future pension are up for grabs- so choose carefully.
Family men, remember, the person with the children is in charge and gets most of the assets.
Fellow D-Dad, If you did all that you can, truly deep down, then forgive yourself. It starts there. Your children need to see you shine and the be man you are supposed to be. You can make 1/2 of the bridge only. Embrace the pain inside. You can stand in the darkness and let the storm blow by. Feel it on your face. Leap to your higher power. It’s terrifying but the net will appear. You aren’t meant to be perfect. Just get the hell up and fail fast. You can do this. You are not alone. One word: Kintsugi.… Read more »
Make every day a day your partner feels loved and respected. It’s too hard to make up for any neglect you may have consciously or unconsciously performed.
When you stop talking about the hard things or give up trying, this will be your biggest sign that failure is imminent. The problems won’t resolve themselves. Then the resolution will be divorce and you don’t get a redo.
It is an incredible opportunity for personal growth and to start living without the drama controlling your every move. If applicable, do not stay in a bad place because of the children but move on FOR the children. Knowing when to go means you’re smart. It does NOT mean you are a quitter.
The fear of the unknown that lies beyond divorce is dwarfed by the enormity of opportunity for rediscovering yourself.
I could write a book on what I learned, but I will try to stick to the 150 word limit. I learned that love is a choice, it is a verb and it is something that needs to be done. That I can give love and do love for someone even if they decide something else because that is who I am and not expect anything in return. That staying in a relationship with someone who doesn’t share these values is also a choice and that if they choose no, this is not a reflection on me, who I am… Read more »
Although, trying to stay/save a floundering relationship is noble, be brutally honest and evaluate your marriage, don’t overstay. When it’s time to bail, get out! Get out fast and don’t look back!