Question: At Holidays parties I’m dumfounded by how men and women act!
Do you believe feminism has ruined the dynamic between men and women. I welcome women being strong and fierce BUT men don’t know how to approach a woman or how to act towards a woman anymore.
Answer: Thank you for your question. I wish I knew more about how you felt personally as opposed to your analysis of men and women. Are you totally confident approaching and being with a woman just sad for other men? Or when you say men do you really mean you are frustrated as well with how to approach a woman or how to act toward a woman anymore?
I ask because it can be very frustrating, emasculating and painful to be rejected by a woman who has left her heart and is overly relying on her accomplishments… focusing on her strengths to a fault, yes? The same of course would be true of a man disconnected from his heart and peacocking around, yes?
That’s why I specialize in Intimacy… In To Me I See… can we find peace with our magnificent parts and our wobbly parts? Can we be honest and real? Can we share authentic vulnerable connection? Can we speak, listen and connect with our hearts?
I am so sorry for any unkind superior or condescending behavior women have shown you or the men you know. And I find going beneath the surface with compassion creates connection… you might ask yourself what it might’ve been like for a woman to be passed over for a promotion or paid less for equal work or not even considered for a job or expected she’d sleep her way to a promotion, yes? This is a very degrading dehumanizing way to live, let alone the atrocities of human trafficking. Even last week my friend’s daughters saved her girlfriend who was drugged at a “rush“ party at a highly establishment educational institution, in a room with three young men whose pants were down to their ankles.
Can we agree that there’s a lot of work to be done to heal conscious relationships on this planet?
I’ve never felt that blaming frat boys or feminists does any good. Whenever we blame we are giving our power away to external source. The other party can only get defensive. Hearts close and we get no where.
However when we lean in and embrace challenge as the catalyst to awaken a dormant part of us ready to emerge, then we take her power back and we are given the possibility to grow.
For a super high level challenge, we can even realize everything is an external representation of a part of our unconscious selves. Yup, that’s a tough one to swallow. Yet if we’re spiritually brave, we can take responsibility for where WE ARE that which we blame… where are we unkind, unconscious, cruel, aloof, etc. We can begin to own that within ourselves… and choose to heal it and wake up.
I notice things keep changing and evolving from a type of Cleaver’s relationship to where men are more connected with their hearts and emotions while women are more connected with their masculine leadership capacities. And I’m noticing yet another change I’d call conscious relationships, inter-dependent relationships or the idea that both people are authentic and take responsibility for their baggage. It’s where they don’t blame the other which creates an unconditionally loving safe space in which to become more conscious for each other, humanity and the planet.
So great man, I don’t think the answer is in blaming feminism but instead asking what is the gift or possibility in connecting with women these days? How could you change? What in you needs to awaken? How is this challenge means to evolve you?
I’m the mother of a 15 yr old boy. I could blame him for everything and live the Nora Ephron joke that I should get a dog so someone is happy to see me when I get home 😉 Or I could ask what IN ME needs to awaken so I can be the best parent I can be, not take things personally and still raise a noble badass?
It sounds like what you have some accurate awarenesses that some women could balance their strength with their softness, and that some men could balance their their noble heart with more masculine certainty, yes?
I’m in total agreement and this is exactly the work I do with women and men. In fact my complementary training for women is called “Vulnerability is the new Sexy” because as we grow, sometimes we swing too far on either side of the pendulum, when in fact the balance of our emotions brings us into our unique truth. Grace is found in the Present Moment, yes? And for gentlemen my complementary training is called “How to be a Noble Badass”. There is power both in a man’s noble heart and in his capacity to have certainty and claim his partner unapologetically. I look forward to hearing your thoughts!
Happy Holidays and may 2018 shower you with soul shaking conscious communion within you, with Source and with you Beloved.
Deliciously, Allana xoxo
p.s. Gentlemen…End the Fear of Rejection.
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Ladies…Be irresistible. Feel sacred. Attract him now.
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That went on longer than I thought.
Yep, blame the man’s. It’s mans fault and none of the wamen’s fault. As social creatures there’s isn’t any behavior one sex in general has that doesn’t effect the other. There was agreed upon sexual conduct between men and women in the past that was fair for the dangers that it would bring to communities and the society in which are inhabited. That went out the window after the sexual revolution. It’s been said “that chivalry is dead and women killed it.” Men just followed to suite. Sex without all the bells and whistles. Thanx. A women doesn’t put out?… Read more »