Attitudes based on contempt for women? Not the most attractive to women. Go figure.
Hey there. Yeah you. Young guy. Actually, you and your friend. You, with your MMA Tapout shirt, and your homeboy, who’s still rocking a “YOLO” shirt. I’m a 40 year old who keeps up with pop culture because I’m a writer/media professional. I’ve been following youth culture lately, specifically the “Bro (MMA, over tanned, over muscled)” culture, and (current) hip-hop culture. I like the energy you and your friend have. You guys are fast, loud, bright. All of the things any culture based around youth should be. Good shit.
However. I’ve noticed something recently. Both of you guy’s cultures’ has an…interesting way of regarding and dealing with women. Really interesting. I understand the conquest/mack persona that younger guys have when dealing with younger women. You guys are way more interested in belt notches with girls, more so than having a relationship with them. And that’s fine. I was once young, so I get the “young, wild and free” narrative. Plus, younger women are super hot these days. I can understand you fellas wanting to play the field for as long as you can.
But, what puzzles me is this. In both Bro and hip-hop culture, there seems to be a…contempt for women. It almost seems like girls are seen as appliances by guys of your generation. To be up kept, updated, polished, cleaned, used, and then thrown away. And, from the Facebook posts I read from younger female friends of mine, the pick-up lines and the “game” from many in your age group are really crude, at best.
Fellas. I understand you lust for the ladies. You go wild for the women.
But, do you LIKE the women?
Seriously? When was the last time either of you actually looked at and a woman and got lost in her eyes, and complement her on them? When was the last time you noticed and were knocked out by her smoky voice, her hot new haircut, or her new perfume? How long has it been since you told a lady friend you loved her new sexy tattoo, or you loved her knockout curves, in a RESPECTFUL way?
One more time fellas. Do you LIKE women?
Have either of you recently had a conversation with a woman about…anything? Other than sex? Or hook-ups? Or threesomes? You guys might be surprised by what a woman would say if you struck up a convo about politics, jobs, or even sports. What’s really wild is that a girl may be even be able to give you great advice about something you need help with. Listening to a woman could be beneficial to you on several levels. It could lead you to connect with her mentally, and emotionally. That same woman could turn out to be your co-worker. Your colleague. Your boss. Your best friend. Your…wife.
Wait. I didn’t mean to scare you two with that last one. Don’t get up from the table just yet.
I can see that you two are pissed at me. An old Gen-X’er who got his dating tips from Babyface. Who’s Babyface? He’s one of the best R&B singer/songwriters of his generation, who sang and wrote…ahh, never mind. R&B barely exists these days anyway. I’m just a geezer who’s telling you that one of these days, the same “girls” you may mack now will be women soon. And I’m not so sure sending them a naughty selfie to their phone will work once these women-to-be graduate college and buy homes. Take the time to really notice the beauty in women. LISTEN to them when they talk. Complement them on their beauty, and anything else about them that’s cool and sexy, and good in their lives. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to have sex with hot women. Try respecting their sexuality WHILE pursuing sex with them.
You two can go now. But, “Tapout” man, please cut down on the Red Bulls and protein shakes. And your friend has to take off that damn “YOLO” shirt. Worst. Trend. Ever.
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