Words used to describe the behavior of President Trump. And whether the source of those comments come from Bob Woodward, Omarosa, or the infamous anonymous New York Times Op-Ed, it reveals a President who:
- Has become a complete emotional disaster and finds it challenging to access his Emotional Intelligence.
- Has become so triggered he is sabotaging his efforts.
- Has avoided, or doesn’t want to deal with, difficult emotions.
President Donald Trump is in an “Emotional Dumpster Fire.”
The self-created reality of the Emotional Dumpster Fire originates from fear, stress, and worry. When someone finds themselves in the fire, they are completely overwhelmed, burned out, defensive, reactive, and running their life in an ego-driven state.
They are constantly drunk with emotion, addicted to being right, and are unaware of their conversational blindspots.
When a leader is in an Emotional Dumpster Fire, it is a dangerous combination of denial and sabotage.
Denial, because they are so caught up in the emotionally destructive narrative they aren’t aware of the relationship between their emotions and their actions.
Sabotage, because their emotional reactions, based on conditioned beliefs, affect critical decisions and problem-solving abilities.
Many professional publications from Harvard Business Review to Forbes, discuss how emotions affect the bottom line of success for all levels of employees, from entry-level to CEOs. This is why we see emotional viruses bringing down companies when working for an unemotional, narcissistic boss.
Look at the reality of Trump’s White House staff. According to BBC news, Bob Woodward’s new book, Fear, paints a picture of a White House staff beaten continuously down and belittled by a temperamental President.
The New York Times infamous Op-Ed article, I Am Part of the Resistance Inside the Trump Administration, paints a picture of Donald Trump dancing in his Emotional Dumpster Fire,
Meetings with him veer off topic and off the rails, he engages in repetitive rants, and his impulsiveness results in a half-baked, ill-informed and occasionally reckless decisions that have to be walked-back.
According to Omarosa’s book, Unhinged,
All we need to remember is that Trump loves the hate. He thrives on criticism and insults. He delights in chaos and confusion.
These examples show us how destructive a leader, in an Emotional Dumpster Fire, can be to himself/herself and everyone around them. The fire spreads and burns down morality, trust, and connection. And as a result, unethical behavior becomes the new norm.
Climbing out of an Emotional Dumpster Fire is challenging and uncomfortable. We have to discover how the spark started and what variables caused it to get out of control.
I have written about how to get out of an Emotional Dumpster Fire in my book, I co-authored with Brian Tracy, Cracking the Code to Success. I have had many clients who, like Donald Trump, sabotaged their success by feeding their addiction to stress; taking the emotional bait and becoming lost in a sea of conditioned programming.
The following three techniques will help you climb out of the Emotional Dumpster Fire and into success.
Master the Art of Recognizing Triggers and Patterns
Our environment shapes our patterns and is an influential mechanism that creates our triggers. This fast-paced society has caused us to be oblivious to the power of emotional patterns and triggers. They shape our perception, our reaction, and our world.
How can we make these behaviors work for us and not against us? It starts with building awareness and willingness to change.
Triggers are any stimulus that reshapes our thinking and creates a strong emotional reaction.
The area of the brain responsible for this, the amygdala, triggers your emotional response faster than your conscious mind. This is where the challenge starts. Because we live in a face-paced world of overwhelm with increased demands, decreased resources, and the need to continually prove ourselves, we become numb. We become unaware of our triggers. Triggers reinforce emotional patterns creating a “Trigger-Pattern” Continuum.
Know Who is in Charge
When we are in an Emotional Dumpster Fire we are so burned out we leave our ego in charge. There is a component to the ego, created by the subconscious that drives our behavior.
The Inner Commentator, like a sports commentator, is the voice inside your head that gives you a play-by-play commentary of your life based on subconscious patterns and beliefs. There are three ways the Inner Commentator tosses you into an Emotional Dumpster Fire.
- The Inner Commentator Creates Lies
- The Inner Commentator Loves Drama and Does Not Want Peace
- The Inner Commentator Loves To Obsess
Access Your Super Power Through the Heart
Achieving real changes, within an individual, starts with accessing the power of the heart. Sure, we have discovered awe-inspiring possibilities of the brain, but new research from the HeartMath Institute reveals the brain-heart connection is the source for unlimited potential.
The heart isn’t just a beating organ that keeps us alive; it is the largest source of bioenergy. In fact, it is 40 to 60 percent stronger than the brain.
Neuroscientists have discovered more information goes from the heart to the brain than the brain to the heart. The heart has a direct neural link to the human amygdala (The fear center of the brain). Therefore when we feel fear or stress, our heart feels it first and then communicates with the fear center of the brain.
This is important when getting out of an Emotional Dumpster Fire because we need to be able to access the intelligence of the heart and bypass the fear-programming of the brain.
Donald Trump has probably been in and out of an Emotional Dumpster Fire most of his life. We can observe this through his decision making, emotional outbursts, and his child-like reactions. It is unfortunate, as a leader, his energy has affected not only everyone around him but our country as well. Therefore, remaining in his Emotional Dumpster Fire has created a predictable future.
A future based on programs of stress, fear, and anxiety.
Unless Donald Trump is willing and able to over-ride his programs, he will remain in his Emotional Dumpster Fire and burn down his success, expansion, and evolution.
Because we are at a critical point in our human evolution, we need to master the three techniques of climbing out of an Emotional Dumpster Fire.
Being in the Emotional Dumpster Fire is counterproductive but like anything, it is an opportunity and a learning experience. It allows us to grow and develop a side of us that is so powerful. Once mastered you will be unstoppable!
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