This comment was made by DJ on the post “Why I’m Not Afraid to Admit I Love my Man Friends” by Jonathan Veith. —
I have three friends that have been friends since we were 9 years old, and I can affirm every world you’ve written here. Not a one of them have not heard words to the effect, “You’re my best friend, I love you, man”. Not a one of them have not replied in kind. Same with the closest of brothers in the service. We are talking city kids, harder men here, the classic old time male.
We’ve been there through the loss of parents, hung onto each one through his tears, been there through as many tough times as each have had, without flinching. To this day we have a memorial golf tournament for a few that we’ve lost with up to forty friends that played sports together from grade school, and joined as one group through high-school. There is a bench dedicated to one of more “flashy” friends on the 13th hole. We all rest a hand on it, sit on it when we get there. Its all about love, guys.
I’m not sure how we’ve come to a time where that is seen as unmanly, or how we escaped that particular box, but we did. Maybe because we tended to ignore society. Might be because our fathers (all veterans of war) taught us brotherly love through their like experience. Might be because we’ve always had each other.
Not sure on that, but I do know one thing. Expressing love can be done in a manly way, and it is absolutely one of the manly arts, and all these young ego driven bucks need to learn that, to learn what it is to be a man.
Thanks for the post, Jonathan. Good stuff.
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