This comment was by Becca on the post 7 Keys to Confidently Approaching and Meeting Her by Jason Rogers
I was painfully shy as a child but as an adult, I eventually learned to interact comfortably with anyone. The key really is just practicing. Whenever you are out, talk to people. Make conversation with everyone – clerks, Uber drivers, old ladies. Just be friendly. Chat with co-workers in the breakroom who you’ve never talked to before. Chat with middle aged women in line at the grocery store. You will learn a lot from this… how to tell when someone wants to chat and when they don’t, what’s the best small talk, how to wrap up a conversation. It’s low pressure because you aren’t trying to impress anyone. You also realize that people vary greatly in their skills at conversation – if an interaction with a woman goes awkwardly, it could be that she’s awkward, not that you did or said anything wrong. In my younger years, when I was quite shy, I totally wrecked many conversations with men because Inwas shy and awkward and responded badly to their overtures. They probably went away kicking themselves when it was actually my fault. So many of these types of dating articles assume that women (particularly attractive women) always have their sh!t totally together and are extremely highly skilled socially and always know exactly what they want. That is completely wrong. They may be as confused and anxious as you are, or more so.
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