This comment of the day was by Scott Brezenski on the post “Why We Need to Give Men Permission to Grieve.”
Our family therapist says, “If you don’t work on grief, grief will work on you.” Sage advice from a great LCSW. She also says that you will grieve for your loss for the rest of your life. Most people cringe at the idea of a life long sentence of grief when I tell my story to others. I find it comforting to know that there isn’t a prescribed length of time to “get over” my wife’s death. Each new milestone that she is no longer here to share with me or our two daughters can feel like a valley of loss–so how can I ever get out of that valley back up and into the joys of life? The time between valleys will lengthen as time goes by but we never know what new life event will bring up feelings of loss and grief. The key is to stay engaged in the healing process. We talk about her often and remember her fondly. To not talk about her would work on us all too much.
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