A 40 year old self-professed “fat” woman wrote an article about her sex life. And Greg Simms Jr. thinks it’s the most rock ‘n roll, seismic declaration of 2014. Here’s his take on this electric piece.
I’m now an editor for The Good Men Project (yay me!). My job is to find writers and articles that fit our awesome brand, and to publish them. I try to find pieces that stand out. That jump out to me.
This one sure as s#$t did.
Christine Whelan, a writer who pens for the website xojane.com, wrote an article earlier this month titled I’m Fat, Forty And Single And I’m Having No Problems Getting Laid All The Time. The title itself is bold, but the article is even bolder. Why?
Because it’s hard enough for women in American society to take ownership of their sexuality without ruffling a few feathers. And it’s harder to do in public (unless their names are Miley, Madonna, and Britney). And it has to be harder to do if a woman isn’t “conventionally” beautiful.
Yet, Christine explains that in 2013 she was determined to be a fully realized sexual being right after a break up (she was in a ten year relationship). ” In the aftermath of the breakup I decided that what I most wanted at this stage in my life was sex, and lots of it. I dubbed 2013 my “year of fucking recreationally” and set out to find some hot, sweaty, messy, dirty, uncomplicated fun with like-minded friends.”
She kept it real, didn’t she? In the spirit of her “realness”, Whelan gave us an honest description of herself physically ” I’m rather short and weigh almost precisely 300 lbs. I wear size 28 clothing.”
But, her weight wasn’t holding her back. At all. As you can clearly see by what she wrote rather boldly , ” I am fiercely intelligent, deeply hilarious, casually stylish, utterly unselfconscious and really, genuinely nice. I am also an absolute riot in the sack. And I’ve been getting laid like crazy.”
Christine’s honesty was refreshing. And brave. But, what makes this article special is her meeting a man who was turned on by her white hot confidence. “I knew I wasn’t the type he always went for, so I was curious. He just looked at me and shrugged and smiled and said “confidence is sexy.” Those words were a touchstone for me.”
Ladies! The last quote says it all. “Confidence is sexy”. Not all men, but men worth your time will find your self confidence the hottest thing about you. Not your size, or your looks. The love of yourself is what Good Men (plugging) will go crazy for.