By Beleaf in Fatherhood
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WELCOME BLACK! This video is inspired by the life and death of all of our brothers and sisters who have been murdered by law enforcement. For the families that have to prepare our children for the fight of there lives, which is just living while black. #BLACKLIVESMATTER and so does each breath we breathe. Let’s breathe with intention. Speak with intention. Move with intention.
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we’re gonna basically talk about how
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we’re dealing through this stuff hello
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hello hello look at me
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I’ve been fresh I’ve been walking with
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my Savior yes I’m trying to do my best
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yes I’m just like a boss and a shaker by
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the flemings browner than his I am
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browning you well not when he gets his
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face washed off let me see your face
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[Music]
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[Music]
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[Music]
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[Music]
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ready say I am strong say I say black is
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beautiful yeah look at yourself don’t
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look at me say God loves me say jesus
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loves me don’t look at me believe
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hmm say I I am NOT not scared have a
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great day have a great day good job go
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ahead downstairs there something once I
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have breakfast okay
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what’s wrong
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[Music]
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did I do something me your said what did
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i do what did i do baby
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[Music]
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huh okay so don’t you two did we’ve been
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a brief together Kay
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[Music]
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you know again please ready
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[Music]
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breathe then hold it okay breathe it
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makes you feel better okay all right
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okay let’s go in there strong AM AM say
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am strong okay I you have any dreams but
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there’s a lot of stuff going on in the
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world and I’ve been trying to like poll
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and see what you guys would rather hear
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from us about I think that’s a sentence
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and basically you know should we be
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trying to provide an escape from what’s
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happening so that this can be kind of
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like a vacation for you or should we be
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trying to dive right in and talk about
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the issues and for us in we can actually
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didn’t hold on our community page and it
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was about like 70/30 but yeah we are
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we’re gonna basically talk about how
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we’re dealing through this stuff there’s
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a lot of conversations being had in our
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text messages it’s a lot of
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conversations being had online talking
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people I don’t know what talking people
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I know for a while trying to help people
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turn us around that’s and it’s
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definitely difficult to communicate well
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and control the situations there’s a lot
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happening and so because of all that
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external pressure and all the things
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that we have gone on outside of our
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homes and outside of our bodies and
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outside of our communities and in our
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communities the one thing we do have
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control over is ourselves and so today
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we’re going to kind of go through like a
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morning routine and talk about what we
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do to kind of get ready and get
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ourselves focused for whatever is coming
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our way this is a new practice is
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something we have not been doing a while
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and experience what breathing well can
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do for you okay so listen there’s a lot
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of things that happen outside of our
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bodies okay sometimes people are angry
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and they’re mean sometimes sometimes
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your system may make you upset sometimes
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your dad make me feel sick and might
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make you upset you guys might be mad at
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each other and you want to stop and you
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want to scream and you want to cry does
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it have to happen before
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[Music]
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sometimes you get mad sometimes you get
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sad have you ever been sad before how do
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you have it how have you been sent tell
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me what makes you say oh you great
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grandfather when you died that made you
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sad
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yeah thank you maybe sensing so all
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those things are happening outside of us
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we can’t control what happens outside of
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us we can’t control the Saudi dyes we
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can’t control if someone said something
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that hurts our feelings right right and
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they say something mean to us but we
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can’t control how we feel about it one
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of the cool things about it is that you
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have the power inside of you to control
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how you display your anger or how you
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display your sadness so when I’m angry
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sometimes
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I make a mean face and I breathe really
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shallow and I can’t take a deep breath
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and it makes me feel very nervous and it
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makes me get jittery and sometimes you
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guys can see it on my face
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yeah one time I left until we were
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watching something allocation of show
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and then I thought mom was real it was
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very sad okay so when I when you when
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you feel like this here’s something that
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you can do you can breathe okay set up
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for me
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we’re gonna I’m gonna teach her how to
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breathe okay now we’re gonna do this a
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lot because it’s really hard to learn
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but you got to practice it okay so when
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you breathe in you put oxygen into your
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blood
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okay so you breathe oxygen into your
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blood and that puts your body in a
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alkaline state so you’re getting more
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oxygen nobody’s before it’s okay so look
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I’m gonna practice like this ready so
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we’re gonna breathe in our nose and hold
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it and then out through our mouth okay
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now when you breathe in your nose you’re
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gonna try to make them air go down to
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your belly okay so watch my stomach
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watch my stuff watch me just watch me
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just watch me right
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that’s why we’re in this tight shirt so
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you can see my building
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okay now we’re gonna take three deep
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breaths okay you’re gonna do it with me
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okay so I say ready get ready
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deal with me ready one two three
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ready
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okay now what’s gonna happen is that you
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might feel a little light-headed so you
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might get a little dizzy
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but listen now we’re gonna breathe and
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then we’re gonna hold it for two seconds
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and then we’re gonna let it out okay so
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breathe and hold it for two seconds
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watch me I’m gonna do it first first
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what I’m gonna do is I’m gonna give you
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this right here this right here is a
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boil it’s called peace and calm now it
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does smell a little funny okay but it’s
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gonna set the mood and set the
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environment for us okay so I’m gonna put
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some in your hand and I want you to do
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we want you to take one dot and then
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you’re gonna rub it together and then
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you’re gonna go
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mm-hmm yeah I’m gonna do it so sorry
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okay stop
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sit back down right hands together over
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together and with me
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take a deep breath get him in the first
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thing we do in this life and the last
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thing we do in this life is take a
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breath our respiratory systems have the
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power to regulate our mood and change
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our energy it is the first thing that
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God did after he made Adam he breathed
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life into him so I’m sure you can
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understand the frustration and anxiety
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you feel when you can’t breathe
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so many things outside of our bodies
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fighting for our focus I know you
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sitting and she’s hoping that no one
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noticed I know it would be cool to
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disappear hocus pocus just know it’s
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nothing new Watson filled the world on
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my shoulder pad pencil I just write
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straight from the mental t mentality I’m
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into fighting for equality allergies
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flamed allergic to lashing them policy
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changing what I can until then I just
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know I got a right to breathe exhale
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people ask me how I’m doing when I say I
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think well when you were in the same
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moment man it ain’t hard to tell wanna
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do my people well I shouldn’t have to
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fight the great yeah and I said people
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ask me how I’m doing when I say I think
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well when you win this thing I mean man
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it ain’t hard to tell
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wanna do my people well I shouldn’t have
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to fight the breeze
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in hell that you know they know they
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pause for a second then let it out try
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to control it
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how did it feel when you were breathing
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did you feel like what did you feel all
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right do me a favor sit over there
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it’s just you feel like you can go to
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sleep now nothing more than taking of it
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you want to get out of here one day oh
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yeah yeah thank you guys so much for
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doing that today
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yeah Lepke hopefully we can do it again
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okay first time we’ve had nine to death
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it was one of those experiences where
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you just couldn’t explain it and uh I
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felt like everybody needed to do it
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I thought to oldest with
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you know be able to do that and I feel
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like they needed it you know I’m saying
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is I think deal is having a lot of
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internal reactions to external
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circumstances that are affecting like
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his feelings like he doesn’t know how to
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express himself and I feel like you like
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sometimes he says I want to cry because
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it like he said today he’s like I want
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to cry sometimes because I makes me feel
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better you know I don’t like it’s
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totally ok to cry you know I mean and I
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think he’s gonna he is gonna need the
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meditation and
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like my child
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[Music]
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I think that Naya is too young but I do
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definitely see her being cousin even
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like what you’re doing you open for that
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little bit of second she was trying to
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figure it out I think right at this
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point Riya I don’t know why he become he
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look like a piece of popcorn just like
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us I have a pan I can’t wait are they
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out like what what would be the vide
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breathe like he was like well I try not
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the lamp you looking at like he looking
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at me suppers many shorts over it oh you
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put underwear on my in it sounds like I
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need something I thought when I picked
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it up I thought it was a head wrap so I
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was gonna put it on I was like yeah well
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they’re shorts she didn’t I oh yeah
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that’s right
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they were weighted they were weighted we
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got to get those can I have a hug well
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there’s no question about it
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brother and sister we’re gonna have to
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stop eating all that junk food but mama
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they protested you know what protest it
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means protest protest means to say to
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voice your opinion about something that
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you don’t think is right
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