Day 4 of the approach anxiety challenge is here, and today I’ll show you how to never run out of things to say. Firstly I have some crucial mindsets for you to adopt. Secondly, I’ve got an exercise that will train you to effortlessly conjure conversational topics on the fly.
Let’s get started. But first, read days 1–3 below if you haven’t already.
The Ultimate Guide to Approaching Women Without Being Creepy or Gross: Part 1
It’s 100% possible to make them excited to have meet you and I’m going to show you how right here.
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You’ll Never Find the Courage to Approach a Woman if You Think She’s Superior to You
Day 2 of this 7-day challenge is here, and now it’s time to know you’re on worth.
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Follow These 3 Steps to Confidently Approach Beautiful Women: Day 3
You’ll not only get a complete guide, but also a video of me meeting a woman on the street to use as a reference.
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You’ve run out of things to say because you’re judging yourself
It’s not that you genuinely have nothing to say; it’s that you think the things you have to say aren’t good enough.
You’ve suddenly decided that whatever you’re likely to come up with won’t cut it and that the stakes of failure are high. You think that if you ‘mess it up’, something terrible will happen, and that’s what’s making you tongue-tied.
There are people you don’t judge yourself around
That’s true. As nervous as you are around the brunette at the bar, you’re not like that with your boys. With them, you’re free, easy, in the moment, and hurling shedloads of unfiltered energy at each other. And funnily enough, that’s precisely why you guys get on.
You see:
Only 7% of your communication comes from your words
Seriously. The other 38% comes from your vocal tone, and the last 55% comes from your body language. This means that what you say isn’t nearly as important as the energy with which you say it. It’s all about who you are, not your specific words.
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Get out of your head and into the environment
Not running out of things to say means being in the environment and not your head. For instance:
- What music is playing, and what does it remind you of?
- What shoes is she wearing, and where have you seen them before?
- What can you smell? Do you smell pizza? Maybe she’d like to get a slice?
There’s an infinite number of things to talk about. Just don’t judge yourself and go for them.
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How to never run out of things to say
This exercise will stop you from getting tongue-tied, and it’s elementary. All you need to do is talk for 10 minutes non-stop. Seriously, keep your mouth moving the entire time, and have a blast while at it. That’s it. Watch the video above to see my female friend trying it out, but here’s a breakdown for your reference.
- Step 1 – Say a sentence (any sentence. For instance, “I like to dance when it rains!”)
- Step 2 – Use that sentence to inspire the following sentence (“Nothing makes me feel more alive than feeling my body drenched with water!”)
- Step 3 – Repeat (“It’s a shame it doesn’t rain every single day!”)
- Step 4 – Repeat (“But that probably wouldn’t be good for the environment.”)
And just keep on going until you reach 10 minutes. Have fun, dive in, and don’t judge yourself. The only way to fail this exercise is to stop talking or not have fun. Play with your words and keep going. The more you do it, the more your words will flow and the less tongue-tied you’ll be in conversations.
Why? Because this exercise is going to challenge you. Coming up with things to say constantly for 10 minutes will force your brain to get very creative, and that creativity will pay dividends in your future conversations.
Try it. You’ll love it.
Ciao for now.
Chaos is a ladder,
Excelsior,
Ciaran
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