Does the fear of a line in the sand between friendships and a deeper relationship send the wrong message to men?
From the original post by James Michael Samma]
“I also believe men try to actually avoid building a friendship with a woman because he doesn’t want to find himself plunging into the dreaded friend zone, and suddenly be seen more as a brother than a potential boyfriend.”
This is precisely the damage caused by the sadly legitimized practice of using friendship as an excuse not to reveal the true reasons for rejecting advances. “I just want to be friends” implies that friendship itself is the reason for declining, and that’s what men tend to hear.
A much better option is, “I really don’t want to explain why I’m not interested because I hope that we can still be friends anyway.” I think that’s what is usually actually meant in the first place, and men will understand what it actually means instead of learning to fear friendship with potential partners.
Also, this is a fantastic article.
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