Question: What is the sweetest thing a man can do in a new relationship around the holidays that won’t scare off a new girlfriend. And…go!
Answer: I totally understand that you want to do something lovely for your new girlfriend this holiday but given she’s still new, you don’t want to overdo it and scare her off! I totally hear you.
And yet, the source of our questions quite often determines the outcome. What I mean is that we can either be motivated by fear or inspired by love. It seems that your question is fear-based by the way you’ve projected into a future of scaring her off already!
I invite you to come back into the present moment and breathe. She’s chosen to be with you. She’s chosen to get to know you. You’re a good guy 🙂 Let go of past women who have ditched you or made your gift choices wrong. Let’s sit in the fire and with discernment and awareness and a whole pile of compassion… We can look to the past for growth, yes? If we look to the past with self punishment we will never evolve and may live in perpetual fear of our worst case scenario happening over and over again, yes?
With curiosity and compassion, is it possible what may have happened in the past with other women that has made you afraid to scare this woman off, is that you were perhaps not coming from total confidence, certainty and self-worth? You might have ‘over’ given to try to get her to love you? Did you try to impress her materialistically? Or did you simply choose women that had difficulty receiving? And it had nothing to do with your choice of gift? Did you choose very masculine women who didn’t know how to be gracious receiver?
What awarenesses do you have if you look into the past with the eyes of kindness?
What if we agree that you did your best in the past, yes? What if we take whatever lessons we can learn from the past and instead of coming from fear in the present moment, let’s be inspired by love and do what would be natural and authentic for you. I don’t ever want you to be somebody you’re not, because that’s ultimately going to screw up the relationship anyways! What would you authenticity inspire you to do for her? What do you know about her already?What has she revealed that she values? Choose an item in that direction…;-)
Next, shall we let go of attachment to the outcome, yes? Give with an open heart, speak with an open heart, listen with an open heart. Be yourself and let that be enough! You are rad! And if she is indeed a great fit, she will appreciate your authentic gesture and most likely appreciate your beautiful gift.
Also, let’s be real and vulnerable. Perhaps be honest with her and let her know that you’re just getting to know each other so you might not of exactly hit the nail on the head so here is the receipts, put it in a little white envelope, so she can exchange it if she would like. How does that sound?
Bottom line I encourage you to let go of the past and come to your relationship is your authentic self, having grown from the past, proud of who you are and compassionate with who you aren’t! Perfectly imperfect and ready for love 🙂
Happy holidays great man 🙂 XOXO Allana
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