James Fell is fine with seeing women naked — but only when they have given him explicit permission to do so.
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I interviewed Bond Woman Eva Green last spring for a Los Angeles Times piece about the 300 sequel. We were alone together in a hotel room. The night before I had seen her naked.
On a gigantic screen I had seen her breasts as she violently mock sexed it up with the male lead. Before the interview I did some meditation to put a lid on the more reptilian, id-focused part of my brain so I could behave like a professional when I sat down across from her.
But I won’t lie. I enjoyed seeing her naked in that movie. Eva Green is hot.
So is Jennifer Lawrence.
I don’t want to see Jennifer naked. I don’t want to see such a thing because I don’t have permission.
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I don’t want to see Jennifer naked. I don’t want to see such a thing because I don’t have permission.
The Internet is losing its mind over a bunch of stolen celebrity nude photos, Jennifer’s among them. They are only a few keystrokes away. You could go on Google right this moment and find them, easily.
But you should not.
Eva wanted me to see her naked. She wanted everyone to see her body when she filmed that scene. For her, it was an artistic display for the movie.
For Jennifer and the other celebrities who had their privacy violated, they don’t want me to see their naked bodies, and they don’t want you to either.
Those photos were intended to be viewed by a very select group of people. I doubt you’re on that list. I know I’m not.
Were I to search them out and view these photos, I’d be participating in the violation. I’d be part of the problem. I’d be helping to perpetuate this kind of theft.
But they’re already out there, you think. What harm can it do now for me to go look?
Yes, you looking won’t make things any worse for Jennifer and the others. The damage is already done. To them.
I want you to pause and think about how you would feel to see these photos. Think about it for the violation that it is.
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I want to prevent damage to you.
I want you to pause and think about how you would feel to see these photos. Think about it for the violation that it is. Again, you do NOT have their permission to see them. They don’t want you looking. Doesn’t it feel shameful to be looking? Doesn’t it feel like a form of assault?
If you have a peek and consider it no big deal, it normalizes the behavior for you. It makes violating people’s privacy, in a sexual way no less, something that you don’t worry about. It makes it feel like you have the right to do so.
This is not a good mindset to have.
I’m not saying looking at these photos will turn you into a rapist, or even a bad person. I just want you to stop and think. We can argue just how bad participating in this privacy violation is and get nowhere. Is it a little bad or a lot bad?
What is certain is: it’s not good.
So don’t look. Endeavor to do less “not good” things is your life. Endeavor to be a better human being. Endeavor to view all with respect and abide by their wishes for privacy. Just because someone is a celebrity doesn’t mean you have the right to see her naked.
Jennifer Lawrence never said yes to this. Had she been asked, the answer would have been no.
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Take the higher ground. If you want to see a naked person on the Internet, there is no shortage of people who gave their permission to be filmed without their clothes on. They said yes.
Jennifer Lawrence never said yes to this. Had she been asked, the answer would have been no.
Never forget: Yes means yes, and no sure as hell means no.
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Originally published on sixpackabs.com
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Of course I looked, are you kidding me? JLaw is hot. I wouldn’t save them or spread them though, it sucks that this happened for them.
If anything, I think this shows a certain humanity to these girls. Makes you sympathize, since everyone seems to take sex pics these days. Plus, I now people have a more realistic look without airbrushing and whatnot.
So you’re just a humantarian and you looked at the pictures because you are so worried by issues of airbrushing and seeing someone’s “realness”. How aultristic of you! I didn’t look. I don’t care how hot the male or female celeb is. THEY DID NOT CONSENT TO IT. How in the world can you support something that you KNOW WAS NOT CONSENTED TO. Are there not enough naked women online for you to look at that you need to look at women that never consented to having their naked bodies put out there? This angers me. But it’s not new.… Read more »
“Just because someone is a celebrity doesn’t mean you have the right to see her naked.”
So why does Justin Verlander not warrant the same concern? Is it because he’s a professional athlete? Is it because he’s male or is it because you’re assuming that everyone looking at the pictures of he and Kate Upton must be looking at Kate? Even if they looked at the pictures to see Kate, why would that be any less of a violation for him if he is seen as well? He didn’t consent either.
@John Gottman Anderson
I feel the same way. I won’t be looking for those photos because it’s wrong. I also want to know why so few people seem to have a problem with it happening to men too. When you violate someone’s privacy it’s wrong, no matter what their sex or station in life. Consent should matter for everyone.
@ James Fell “If you have a peek and consider it no big deal, it normalizes the behavior for you ” When you don’t believe and / or don’t care that it happens to men. When you don’t believe that men suffer harm from this. When you think it’s something only men can do to women. When it’s not something that’s worth your mention let alone notice. You’ve already normalized it. @ Kashmir “I also want to know why so few people seem to have a problem with it happening to men too ” Because the behavior is already normalized… Read more »
“I also want to know why so few people seem to have a problem with it happening to men too. When you violate someone’s privacy it’s wrong, no matter what their sex or station in life. Consent should matter for everyone.” I don’t think anyone is saying that the same rules don’t apply to men. There is just such a larger pool of objectification when it comes to women’s bodies. I mentioned “revenage porn” below, which is apparently (ususally males) posting videos or pictures of women who never consented to have their pictures or videos posted. It’s proven to be… Read more »
All right. So the victims couldn’t have known any better. Up to now we thought everything could be protected on the internet. So from this point on everyone understands that if it’s on the internet it’s going to be public information. Anything can be hacked and revealed. Nothing is safe or assumed to be gone forever. Everyone got that? At least until next week…
Okay. Try to stay with me on this one. I saw the photos before they were reported as directly stolen. I figured it was a boyfriend that was pissed at her and trying to defame her. She is a wonderful person and one of the most beautiful and successful women of her age. I do not feel shame from seeing her naked, mostly because all of the photos I saw were some of the most tasteful nude images I have ever seen. Her class is absolutely legendary, even when sexting. Now onto my beliefs as a computer scientist. If anything,… Read more »
Doesn’t it feel shameful to be looking? Doesn’t it feel like a form of assault?
No, and no.
Furthermore, I recommend you consult your dictionary for the definition of ‘assault.’ Referring to this as “assault” is an insult to anyone who has ever been physically beaten.
Lazy, lazy heuristics. Way to go, cognitive dissonance.
Sorry Joanna, here is a GMP article on the Prince Harry pics. Notice a difference in focus and notice how we’re not told why we shouldn’t be looking and in fact are given “license” to look.
“No, I’m not putting the photos here, but feel free to give Harvey Levin some page views if you want to see if the carpet matches the drapes or whatever.”
https://goodmenproject.com/good-feed-blog/open-thread-prince-harrys-naked-photos/
From the link you gave John: No, I’m not putting the photos here, but feel free to give Harvey Levin some page views if you want to see if the carpet matches the drapes or whatever. What I am wondering is this: Do naked photos of a 20 something rich kid in Vegas change the way you see the guy? What if he weren’t a prince? Does Harry Windsor have a duty to maintain his composure moreso than any of his peers? And finally, does any of this really matter in the grand scheme of things? How about his future… Read more »
And yet this will generate outrage and demands that people be held accountable. When have you seen that when a man’s privacy has been violated. Look at how Prince Harry and The Duchess of Windsor (hope I got the title right) Kate Middleton were treated. Were the men undeserving of protection and how many people would skip articles that had the pictures even with their “privates” blurred out in them? I guess even if these pictures weren’t authorized, it’s OK to look because I can’t see something I deem to be a violation. I guess there’s some things a person… Read more »
Right. Those pictures are the result of a crime, and are just one more example of sexual abuse. Sharing or viewing means taking part in the crime.
http://www.forbes.com/sites/scottmendelson/2014/09/01/jennifer-lawrence-nude-photo-leak-isnt-a-scandal-its-a-sex-crime/
Damn right! I can’t fathom people comparing getting off to these photos to looking at a playboy mag. CONSENT. IT MAKES AN EFFING DIFFERENCE.
I agree with you in theory. I also think it’s shameless how every single news source is using this for click-bait, spinning it bigger and bigger, causing more people to hear, creating demand.
Agreed.
It’s pretty sad that so many people blame the victim.
This is only one of two articles I have read about the topic. The other breaks down the Lena Dunham tweet and why it’s right. The moment I saw a tweet about the topic I said to my partner, “I’m not even going to click on that story.” (the tweet was from an entertainment outlet). If I’m going to read about this, I’m confining it publications that have meaningful writing (whether or not I ultimately agree with the writer) where I’m 99% certain there will be no links to the pictures in question. The whole thing is appalling. I really… Read more »
I so appreciate this perspective, James. Oddly enough, I had a similar reaction. It was almost as if I would be degrading her as a powerful,young and beautiful actress who is already giving us what she can and adding to our enjoyment of life. I was recognizing that violating people’s privacy and posting it all online has gone too far. The expanded social and personal implications of this goes beyond our pleasure of viewing. Wonderful reminder. Thanks for writing it so beautifully. xo
100% agree. 100%. Yes.
What if J-Law is not a victim at all? She is a wonderful young actress, but always in need for attention and gets is by 1) falling down, 2) talking excessively, and 3) could she have possibly manufactured this latest tale for attention? It could well be and I am sure she is not the first to try this out. It’s huge, and will shower her with attention for sure.
You have the shadow of a point in that events like this could be manufactured outrage, and there’s no shortage of cynical canny people who overblow online persecution or wrongdoings in order to build up the appearance of being a victim. However 1. Its generally considered polite to give the benefit of the doubt the first two or three times that the boy cries wolf. Otherwise, you’re traveling down a dark, old-fashioned road. 2. This was a big leak. Unless you think that the PR people of a bunch of hot young acresses clubbed together to coordinate this leak, that… Read more »
@Bibi Small,
Well, even if it is nothing more than a publicity stunt, I’d say it’s even less of a reason to go looking up those pictures. Least you really want to play it right into the hands of those PR people…