Question: My Father in law is a nice man, but every once in a while he gives me a subtle threat. If I ever hurt his daughter, I would regret it. We’ve been married for 10 yrs! I’ve told my wife. She say, He’s just kidding around. But it doesn’t feel like a joke. What should I do next? I don’t want to live in fear for the remainder of my life or marriage, whichever comes first!
Answer: Isn’t it wild our spiritual growth can even come in the package of a cantankerous father-in-law!?
If we were to take the point of view of compassion, we would see that your father-in-law is projecting threats from an internal place of fear and out of control-ness and inability to process that his daughter is a grown woman. Maybe it’s how his father-in-law treated him. I don’t think he has integrated and come into allowance that you have sex with his baby girl.
I’m not sure what your past was and what your male figures were like growing up, and I wonder if he is triggering some past trauma of yours as a gift for you to step into your masculine power and no longer let him be superior or dominant and for you to stand your ground with your heart open and use some humor and jovial yet firm responses to get them off your back while acknowledging your nobility and also soothing his fear.
10 years is a very long time to live in fear of your life or your marriage… I’m super glad you reached out. It’s time to handle this my friend, it’s time to lean in and sit in the fire and do your deeper work and discover your masculine grandeur to not defend against or dominate but literally stand in your power beside him, and thrive in peace in your life and in your marriage.
I have to imagine, because how we do anything is how we do everything, but doing this deep inner work would be a contribution to your marriage, your work, your health, your connection to spirit… I wonder if there’s other places that you are feeling wobbly toward authority. I wonder if you have trepidation around speaking your truth or taking up space or knowing that you truly are valued and belong.
Bottom line I think you’re fantastic for reaching out and I invite you to handle this once and for all now for you, your marriage, and your capacity to thrive in every area of your life. Contact me at www.allanapratt.com/connect
There you can apply for a complementary strategy session to see if you are a fit for me to invite you to work with me for a series of six sessions.
Let’s get to the bottom of this and soothe you to a place of total security so you can stand in your nobility and be bigger than your circumstances.
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So glad you reached out, and see you in the workshop if not also in my booking calendar with your application for a complementary session. I’m here for you, and this can change now 🙂
Great Love and blessings, Allana XOX
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