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At one time or another, we find ourselves realizing that we need to turn our life around. We usually feel this way when we see ourselves faced with some type of failure, or when something horrible has taken place and caused us to feel like we have been pushed into a hole that is too steep to get out of.
The toughest part about moments like these is that they are just a normal part of life — the adversity we face never goes away, it just takes breaks. The key to dealing with such adversity is not to let it stop you from living your life. If you’re someone who has found themselves at a point in life where you feel like you need change, I have some advice on something you can do — one specific action — to help.
Before I share what that advice is I want to share a picture of me.
That is a picture of me at a Justin Moore concert. Justin Moore is a country music artist. Before going to that concert, I had never given country music a chance. I loved R&B and rap, and as far I was concerned any other type of music sucked.
Looking back I’m glad I went. Not only did I discover a new artist (and genre) that I love now, I even met a few cute lady friends. Leaving my comfort zone that night gave me that confidence to approach a group of females and ask them to dance.
With that being said I want to share now what my one specific piece of advice is for dealing with adversity: push yourself to break out of your comfort zone.
In my life, I have noticed that there is a direct correlation between how disgruntled and unsatisfied I feel with where I am at a certain moment in my life and how ingrained I am in my comfort zone I am.
Adversity is part of life, trying to resist the breaks we all have in life will result in even more unhappiness. Instead of refusing to accept that face, we should all take action to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. By seeking out new opportunities outside our comfort zone, we do just that.
If you push yourself to leave your comfort zone you will not only get comfortable with change; you will also become a better person.
In life no one is perfect, but we can work on bettering ourselves and working on our faults. Leaving my comfort zone helped me realize that. Once I came to that realization, I decided to sit down and write out some ways I could improve on what I have and achieve what I haven’t. While the things I wrote down won’t solve all my problems, they will give me the tools I need to be successful in becoming the man I want to be.
One of the ways I realized I could improve on what I have and achieve what I haven’t was by learning to speak my mind more often.
Is speaking up more often going to be easy? Nope! Changing old habits never is, but if I want to improve my life, there is probably no better place to start than learning to speak my mind.
Speaking my mind more often is especially important to me. Too often I find myself holding back saying something because I worry I’ll embarrass myself (like when I want to approach a woman), disappoint someone, or offend someone, but the truth is I will gain much more respect by speaking my mind and saying what I feel. Leaving my comfort zone to speak my mind more often shows that I value my opinion.
I would never have decided to improve on what I have and achieve what I haven’t had I not decided to leave my comfort zone and go to that Justin Moore concert. With that being said I leave you with these final words. Leave your comfort zone!
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A version of this post was published on BlogWithDarnell and is republished with the author’s permission.
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