Question: My girlfriend used to love my sense of humor when we first started dating. Yet lately she’s annoyed and says I’m trying too hard. What changed? I am no different now then when we started dating.
Answer: I hear you. How frustrating to you given you don’t think you’ve changed!
Something I didn’t think about when filming this video was that it has nothing to do with your humor… there’s something ELSE going on that she’s not talking about and she’s passive aggressively getting you back by not laughing at your jokes.
Unfortunately communicating about what’s bothering us is tough. Sometimes we’re too scared of being rejected to speak up. Sometimes we’re too angry that if we speak we’ll kill them off emotionally for sure. Sometimes the other gets so defensive no matter what we say or do that it’s a full blown full stop IMPASSE… so people learn to say nothing, and become passive aggressive to get their point across that they’re pissed or hurt.
Did something happen you’re not aware of? Did you blow something off that she deemed important? Did you devalue her point of view instead of agreeing to disagree?
Or have the honeymoon honeymoon hormones worn off and she might even be 1% accurate that you are trying a smidge too hard? Is there an ounce of truth in what she’s saying, even though her manner of communicating isn’t a kind way to bring that up?
I’d sit down and call a truce. Light a candle. I’d open your hearts. Smile the best you can. I’d remember why you love each other. I’d remind one another what you align on. I’d express how each of you feel without blame or justification. I’d ask what else is possible that you’ve never considered to create harmony and respect. I’d ask what the other needs to feel honored and cherished.
I bet you’ll discover something important to each of your evolution.
I’m here to support you both in couples counseling sessions should you be unable to heal this impasse. I’m here to help you connect and communicate in a way the other can hear. I’m here to build that bridge back together where you’re authentically hysterical, she loves it and you two grow closer and closer. You can apply for a complimentary strategy session to see if you’re a fit for making that Soul connection with her again… soulful laughs and all… at www.AllanaPratt.com/connect
Lastly, what if this was exactly what is required to move closer… even if it’s darkest before the dawn?
Don’t give up.
Huge love, Allana xoxo
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