Joanna Schroeder was a little bummed out after watching BuzzFeed’s funny new gender-swapping video about how BFFs behave.
On the surface it seems like this video is just guys making fun of what women do – or in some ways making fun of gay guys (because guys who are affectionate with one another obviously HAVE TO be gay right?!) – but if we dig a little deeper and take the silliness out of it, our discomfort with guys acting like women makes a commentary about the intimacy that women are allowed to have with one another that men are not.
Think of it this way: Guys are conditioned out of touching one another, other than their high-fives or bear hugs, but girls get to drape their legs over one another and hang out taking photos together. Women can say “I’m obsessed with you” and it’s funny and cute, because it’s intimate for women. For guys it would be terrifying and extremely norm-violating.
But isn’t it sort of sad that we put these restrictions upon guys, especially straight guys?
What’s wrong with non-sexual intimacy? What’s wrong with feeling like you’ve got someone there to tell you they’re jealous that you’re tall, or that you look great, or that you’re not annoying.
Sometimes, as a woman, I think it can be a bummer the strictures men live under in our society. The Man Box prevents a type of intimacy that us women are freely allowed to share.
So, guys, what do you think? Is there any element of this video that makes you feel like women are getting the better end of the deal when it comes to same-sex friendships?