5 ways to ignite passions…but they’re not what you’d think.
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There are countless articles and websites filled with information on how to overcome sexual issues. There are techniques, tips and advice to be found from all manner of sources.
So what is it about sex that we struggle with so much?
And why does it always seem as if everyone else is having better sex?
The truth is, they’re probably not. They’re likely grappling with the same sexual issues as you.
Those who are truly experiencing better sex are typically further along in years, or further along in their relationship.
So take heart. Relax. There’s plenty of time to get there. But sexual satisfaction won’t happen by chance. There’s work to be done.
It’s amazing to me that sex can create such incredible emotional connections and orgasmic ecstasy, while at the same time it can just as easily create profound isolation, loneliness and shame.
It all boils down to this: sex is much more than an act. It’s a metaphor. How you do sex says a lot about how you do
It’s amazing that sex can create such incredible emotional connections and orgasmic ecstasy, while at the same time it can just as easily create profound isolation, loneliness and shame.
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life, and how you do life says a lot about how you do sex.
I’m going to address the fellas in this post, so heads up.
Many married men timidly approach sex with their wives. From initiation to the actual sex act, men often fall victim to the “do what worked last time” philosophy.
They look and hope for ways to have sex with their wives without bringing up the subject, or they go through their day trying not to upset her out of fear she won’t want to have sex later. The problem with this is that they’re not really taking charge of their life, or of their relationship.
Let’s start with what turns a woman on. Ironically, when it comes to what turns a woman on, it’s the opposite of what most men think. The biggest mistake men make is in believing that women like the same things they do. Sorry fellas, but reaching over in the morning and grabbing a breast—while it may be a fairly clear signal to you—is usually not a way to ignite her passion; nor is it foreplay.
How a woman feels when she is with a man is the primary factor in whether or not she experiences attraction and sexual desire.And what she wants to feel is trust.
For the majority of women: trust = lust. If your wife seems to have lost interest in having sex with you, my guess is that you haven’t given her a reason to trust you, or that you’ve killed whatever trust she once had.
So how do you develop and maintain a high degree of trust in marriage? Basically, through your strength, your presence, your confidence and your integrity.
- Your strength. There’s a reason males are considered the stronger of the two genders. A man is often expected to provide protection, support and physical power. He’s expected to work hard, sweat, do the heavy lifting and to stick to it when times get tough. Play to these masculine strengths.
- Your presence. Your wife’s willingness to have sex is deeply dependent upon this. If you are 100 percent present when you are with her (even if your time together is limited), she will be satisfied. On a side note, I believe that 100 percent of your sexual energy should be focused within the relationship. Spending any percentage of it elsewhere leads down the slippery slope to breaking your partner’s trust.
- Your confidence. Because women are by nature security-seeking creatures, a man’s confidence can be a major turn-on. When a man approaches a woman with confidence, she experiences the same chemical reaction in her brain (a release of both dopamine and norepinephrine) that a man experiences when a woman lifts up her shirt and shows him her breasts. And by “confidence,” I don’t mean “machismo.” I’m referring to the type of man who knows who he is (and who he isn’t). At the other end of the spectrum, men who are anxious, passive and eager to please exude anything but confidence. Looking for a surefire way to kill the passion in your marriage? Become the passive, conflict-avoiding, eager-to-please nice guy who only wants to make his wife “happy.”
- Your integrity. The ability to consistently act with integrity is crucial in maintaining a deep sexual bond with your wife. This means that you always tell the truth, keep your word, follow through and have good boundaries.
Bonus point: 5. Have a plan. This isn’t about controlling a woman; it’s about giving her a choice. One of the worst things you can do is come home in the evening and ask, “What do you want to do tonight?” Instead, walk in the door and say, “Be dressed and ready to go to dinner by 7.” Give her the option of either following your lead or proposing an alternative. Don’t leave everything up to her. This same principle applies to the bedroom as well.
As a man, when you are present and share your mind, heart, humor, intellect, imagination, words, strength and even your dark side with your wife, you open her up to the fullness of your being. As she joins you in this state of openness, and opens herself up to you, she will take you places you can’t take yourself.
Why is it automatically assumed that divorce typically happens due to the guy being the issue? A lot of Christian married men I talk to on a regular basis highlight one of the problems in their marriage is their wife’s constant nagging, complaining, and tendancy to focus on negative things (not even about their marriage). I realize infidelity is often the case, but I wonder if women would be shocked at how many husbands are “sticking it out” either for the kids or hoping she’ll chill out as she gets older.
Jeff,
“Why is it automatically assumed that divorce typically happens due to the guy being the issue?”
Well, you answer your own question right there.
If the guy wasn’t the issue, why would the woman need the constant nagging, complaining, and focus on negative things to happen…?
To the author:
On a side note, I believe that 100 percent of your sexual energy should be focused within the relationship. Spending any percentage of it elsewhere leads down the slippery slope to breaking your partner’s trust.
Do you have any idea how to keep focusing the sexual energy within the relationship, if your wife/GF/partner already come to lose the attraction for you and despise your sexual energy?
Hi Steve and Corey You two seems to be in agreement about women’s appreciation for leadership defined this way: ✺”: 5. Have a plan. This isn’t about controlling a woman; it’s about giving her a choice. “. ✺ I actually see it as dominant behavior. And as a woman I like this old Arab proverb : “Make a man your master and he will sell you at the slave market”.. Corey describe this as giving her a choice. Well how do men feel if women just walk in the door and say: get dressed and be ready to leave at… Read more »
Hi Iben,
I have never known a man that leaves everything up to me. Do such men exist?
For a change I would love to spend a night with a man that asked me :” what do you want to do tonight”. Nobody have asked me that. If men asked that question they might learn something:)
I’ve asked different women just that question far too many times.
What I’ve learned was rarely something interesting or exciting for the both of us.
(And I’m not talking about sex on “her” terms. Usually it was bad TV or something…)
Hi FlyingKal
Well, at least you learned one thing. You learned what she likes to do in her spare time and what she likes to do when she spends a day or an evening with a man.
Maybe it was nothing exciting , but you learned more about her and what life would be like if the two of you decided to spend the life together.
Hi Iben,
So if a man gives you free choice of how to spend the evening, you show your clear contempt in him in selecting something that he has absolutely no interest to participate in. And then you are astonished that this doesn’t happen more often…?
Hi Iben, You wrote: “Why shall women applaud if a man behave dominant and see this as an expression of love, when it is simply a calculated strategy to get laid more often?” I write from the context of a relationship where both people have chosen to give each other a break. This would mean NEVER assuming (negatively) that his motive was simply to get laid. By assuming his mysterious invitation was a surprise, you can choose to show trust and respect that he isn’t the sleazeball you used to treat him like. A man who feels judged, untrusted, and… Read more »
Hi Steve ✺”A man who feels judged, untrusted, and “unrespected” will enter a tailspin of anger and resentment every time. If you really want to make him mad, tell him “all you ever think about is sex”.✺ Steve, all it takes to make a man mad is to say no to sex. I have had a boyfriend scream to me ” you’re not horny” I had a old friend and neighbor inviting me over to watch Tour de France on television and when I moved away from him when he put his arms around me he screamed ” all I… Read more »
It sounds more like a pattern of no’s to sex. It’s not like any single refusal is awful.
And why should married men limit their sexuality to an expression of love? Should I only cook dinner, or fold the laundry or other various chores when I’m thinking loving thoughts?
Hi ? Says
Here is my answer.
Read this article. It answers your question.
https://goodmenproject.com/gender-sexuality/why-men-are-so-obsessed-with-sex-jvinc/
@Iben,
I love to cuddle! Even though I most certainly will get sexually aroused, I do not always expect sex or press the matter of sex with my girlfriend. I do know when enough is enough.
As a woman, this rings very true. Let me elaborate on a couple points. ” when it comes to what turns a woman on, it’s the opposite of what most men think.” For instance, guys get turned on by breasts, and many think women get aroused by the size of his penis, or aroused by his naked body. Some women do. But many don’t. Not to say we aren’t drawn to your looks, we are. But it’s not a fetish-type experience. And relatedly, “How a woman feels when she is with a man is the primary factor in whether or… Read more »
@BroadBlogs…
“Women tend to be turned on by thinking the guy is really into her. Probably because both men and women learn that women are the sex objects/sexy ones in our society.”
Then how do you explain women who have casual sex and hookups with stranger (one nite stands)? Or women who have sex with men who they would never date (just the sex please)? These two example are counter to what you are asserting.
Not Buying It in Maryland.
Cheers!
I am a woman and this article is bunk. Sorry. It’s also very pandering, and oftentimes plays to the “men have to be like ________” mentality. Ew.
Wallywood wrote: ✺ ” married women would have to struggle to stay attracted to their husbands, and often have romantic sexual attraction only for someone besides the husband.”✺ As a women I ask you wallywood can you give us any advice about how? How can a woman make her body feel desire for a person he feels no desire for? You say women have to struggle to be attracted . Well how do you do that wallywood? Imagine you meet a woman you feel zero sexually attraction for, but your life would become happier if you desired her,and loved to… Read more »
Sorry a typo
I did NOT want a child with this man.
@Iben… Hi Iben ! Hope you are doing well. Your write, “In marriage some men reacts with withdrawal emotionally and physically when their wife no longer responds sexually the way they expected when they married.” Yes, this is exactly what happened to me. My resentment and contempt was so high that I simply disconnected myself from her emotionally and physically. I moved into the guest bedroom. I rarely talked to her. I simply mentally checked out of the marriage. She once remarked, after my speaking to a therapist about my feeling, “I love making love to you.” I took it… Read more »
Hi Jules
You are right.if a woman loves to make love to her husband , she will make love to him more often than once a month….unless she is 95:)
I read a LOT of posts from women who claim to be on the “evolved woman” path. They seek to connect long-term with men who are “conscious”. They describe in great detail the type of man they want to partner with and share the values of respect, appreciation, acceptance, and passion. http://whatevolvedwomenwantblog.wordpress.com/ They frequently list the following traits as important ones for sustaining attraction and desirability. Many of them say these are prerequisites to feeling open enough to be as sexual as they want to be. 1. Strength (emotional) 2. Presence (“meet” her) 3. Confidence (in himself and his path)… Read more »
Corey, I personally liked your list of things a man can bring to a relationship. There are a few things I would fine tune though. I do agree a man should bring his strength to a relationship. I’m not sure why this caused so many to respond in anger but a man should bring his strength to a relationship. I also believe a woman should too. Sometimes our strengths look different though. Hopefully a man can bring his the areas he is strong in into a relationship and not always expect his partner to match him tit for tat but… Read more »
Another woman chiming in to say I’m very glad my partner is not reading this. 1. Lust = lust. Yes, I need to trust someone in order to have a long-term relationship, but that doesn’t automatically mean I’m turned on. Perhaps I missed it, but in this whole article about “igniting her passion”, at no point does the author ever suggest LEARNING WHAT TURNS HER ON. Seriously, dude? 2. There’s nothing wrong with being “eager-to-please” or wanting to make your wife happy (who the fuck would be with someone who didn’t want to make her happy?!?). Author seems to be… Read more »
“If my partner came home and pulled that on me…” With one pair of glasses, a woman can have negative thoughts in her head about the motive and intention of her husband and choose to react in an angry and indignant manner. With another pair of glasses, a woman can believe that he is trying to share the load in meal planning and giving some considerate thought to treating you to dinner with some mapped out options. As Karen Jones and Tamara Star have written, both men and woman get to choose their thoughts and address their own false beliefs.… Read more »
Speaking from a woman’s point of view here, based on experience with a couple of thoughtful men over the years (although alas, not all are thoughtful). Guys— In bed let your lady come first, as in ‘come’ first. She’ll appreciate that you are skilled enough to get her there AND giving enough to put her desire first AND are capable of making yourself last a long enough time to complete the entire scene in more than a couple minutes. If you give her that, pretty soon she’ll turn around the favor and not only initiate, but sometimes (even, often) give… Read more »
She comes first, second and third. Still shows little spontaneous desire, creativity or energy for sex. So, what, I guess that means it’s not love?
Hi Female Guest.
I liked to take my time. Or take time for us. Like 45-60 minutes, minimum. And we weren’t doing mindless in-and-out pumping during that time, but most of it I was stroking, caressing, giving her oral, and as B.S. said above, she came first, secong, and third.
Still no desire. Still no initiative, and turned me down 9 times out of 10.
I guess she just wasn’t atttracted to me anyway…
FlyingKal
Or maybe she is a lesbian since she has no interest in your penis,no interest in penetrative sex.
Hi KIM,
Then I would at least expected her to appreciate the orgasms I brought her by giving oral sex, without a penis within reach nor in sight 😉
No, I know. That’s just crazee…
Hi Corey The issues you write about is important, but let me tell you that I cringe when I read this sentence : ✺” Instead, walk in the door and say, “Be dressed and ready to go to dinner by 7.”✺ If my husband talked to me that way I would look back in disbelief and wonder if he actually though I was the family dog he can dominate and tell what to do. I am the family cat that comes if spoken to with a tender voice and showed respect. I am not turned on by men that try… Read more »
Hi Iben, Let’s talk about the thoughts in your head here. What do you think his TRUE intention toward you is in this example? Is it dominate/controlling or loving/playful? This is where your thoughts make all the difference to a man. What if he delivered the invitation like this: “Sweetheart, you’ve busted your ass all week and don’t need to worry about what’s for dinner. The kids are at your mom’s until 9pm and I’ve made reservations at our favorite restaurant. Be dressed and ready to go by 7 you sexy thing. You deserve to be pampered for a change.”… Read more »
Hi Steve You say: ✺”With the right energy in the relationship and the right thoughts in your head, a woman can actually know and feel his love and intenti to go by 7″.✺ Maybe Steve. And maybe Scandinavian ideas of good leadership is not takling to anotjer person the way this husband do. I live in another culture and leaders also behave differently here than in America. To walk and ask me to get dressed and get ready at seven, without any explanation does not make me feel good. For me this is inpolite , and show a lack of… Read more »
Iben, You may be right about a cultural difference. I don’t know. I’ll assume that it comes down to individual preference. I have a good American friend who is divorced in Sweden from a Swedish woman. He is getting mobbed with sexual attention from 3 Swedish women who can’t stand the “spineless fucks” (their words, honestly) they’ve dated in their own country. My friend is a former Nice Guy (spineless too, which his wife disliked) who has learned to set his values and stand by them. That includes treating women with equality, respect, honesty…and an assertive style of masculinity. Even… Read more »
Hi Steve You make me smile with your story about Sweden. It reminds me of a Russian woman friend I have. She walks abound in my country and complains :” where are all the men? Why don’t they flirt with me and make me feel a woman like I did in Russia.” Then I tell her:” find a Russian man and bring him here to scare the life with you”. Then she screamed loud ” no” I do not want to marry a Russian man… Nobody want a spineless person Steve, but Russian macho can be a little bit to… Read more »
Typo
Find a man and bring him here to share the life with you.
My suggestion is to surprise her by doing thevacuuming without being asked. Works wonders.
on what planet does that happen? i’ve got no problem with trying to fair and equal about keeping up the house. or doing more than one’s share when the other is burdened with something else. but in my experience, such things rarely evoke a response of “thanks” let alone work wonders as far as getting her to make an extra effort in the areas i care more about.
Hi Deb,
Do you have personal experience of that?
Or are you projecting a lack of lust onto something you feel that you are missing (household sharing in your case, orgasms as M.J.O stated above), but that you won’t actually know would help, had you been on the receiving end of it, so to speak?
Corey – thank you for posting the article and inspiring the discussion. On second thought I wince at sounding harsh about the original article. It didn’t personally inspire me (or I didn’t agree / resonate with it).
But you did spark some damn fine discussion, sir, and for that ,
Corey, The thing that really incense me with this piece is the burden is ALWAYS placed on the man. So, just what the fuck is the woman’s responsibility? Zippy I suppose. I have been divorced for three years. I can tell you the shit you are talking is not going to work the majority of the time. It is laced with the fundamental assumption that your wife/partner REALLY find you sexually attractive. Common sense (and now experience since divorce) should tell anyone that if she was REALLY sexually attracted to her man, she would be fucking him, period. None of… Read more »
Jules points out the catch-22 of long term romance. He says he wants frequent romantic sex with the same one woman, across time. Research says men often stay intensely attracted to their one woman for decades on end, but women lose that mush & lust intensity after a few years, especially for husbands and fathers of their children. It seems like the biological boredom of her genes telling her “you already have that.” Married men might struggle to ignore other attractive women, but married women would have to struggle to stay attracted to their husbands, and often have romantic sexual… Read more »
Wallywood
“”””search says men often stay intensely attracted to their one woman for decades on end””””””
Can you give us the link to reach that can confirm what you state here as a fact?
Sorry.
Give us a link to recent research that confirms what you say here.
Men never stray, never loose their sexual interest in their one and only.
Never any need for variety,other women,porn…..not to mention porn.
The idea that “men are considered the stronger of the two genders” is ridiculous, simply put. I have been married for 5 years but have been together with my husband for 9 years. I, and most women I know, LOVE sex. The key to good sex is communication and both partners need to express their wants without fear of judgement or rejection. Moreover, “strength” needs to go both ways. There are times when I am completely dominant and my husband loves it. There are times when he is dominant and I love it. Both partners have to work to remain… Read more »
Corey, You write, “For the majority of women: trust = lust. If your wife seems to have lost interest in having sex with you, my guess is that you haven’t given her a reason to trust you, or that you’ve killed whatever trust she once had.” This is complete bullshit. If this were in fact true, then women would NEVER have sex with dangerous men. Lust is driven in women by their sexual desire for him. A man with a great body/physique and whom she THINKS is good in bed will get to have sex with her. How about all… Read more »
Sure many women long for the “bad boy” – but not for the long haul of a marriage.
Hi Corey,
That’s probably the core of the problem right there, isn’t it?
How do you think the points in your article work to ignite passion in a partner that you have committed a monogamous life to, but who maybe wasn’t all that attracted to you even in the first place?
@Corey,
The only reason most women do not desire a ‘bad boy’ for marriage is due to impracticality. They know he is NOT going to stick around or be emotionally available. Nevertheless, the sexual desire for him never goes away.
My suggestion to women: marry the men you like to fuck. Otherwise, all you are doing is imparting misery on other men. I speak from experience on this one.
Hi Jules
✺”My suggestion to women: marry the men you like to fuck. Otherwise, all you are doing is imparting misery on other men. “✺
We an agree on that 100%.
The great news is that some women actually like to fuck normal men and do not lust after thugs,criminals and bullies. Nor do we read 50 Shades of Grey…
If American women are raised to be aroused by disrespectful bullies, then maybe this is an indication that something is terribly wrong in the American culture ?
Jules has a point.
Women lust after bad boys for Bee relations.
Women might desire nice guys for a Bird relationship, but familiarity breeds contempt > respect.
Being TRUST-worthy might be
……”men who are anxious, passive and eager to please exude anything but confidence………….. the passive, conflict-avoiding, eager-to-please nice guy who only wants to make his wife “happy.”
Wallywood, as far as i know they don’t. mine hasn’t, in fact few of the women i know have. As for this article… it does kind of lump all men into one basket, it also lumps all women into another basket, and in my opinion that’s not exceptionally cool. Want to be happy, find a person ( i don’t care what gender you go for ) whom you respect love and admire, who respects loves and admires you… now allow those feelings to help you become a better person every day, communicate well, and understand that sexual attraction is not… Read more »
Yay! Well said M.J.O.
Corey Allan is just trying to say that wives lose romantic interest and romantic enthusiasm for husbands because the husband lost his strength lost his confidence, checked out mentally and lost his integrity. Let’s hope Corey Allan is right, because the alternative is that husbands lose their confidence, and eventually their integrity because their wives change from pre-marriage and early marriage mush & lust, to irritation, disappointment, criticism, rejection, and wanting husbands for chores & childcare instead romance & recreation. Wouldn’t it be a better world if women didn’t almost automatically lose respect and lose desire for the men who… Read more »
Wallywood
“””””Wouldn’t it be a better world if women didn’t almost automatically lose respect and lose desire for the men who love them, want them, and desire them, once they have those men and their children.””””””
Do women automatically lose respect for men once they have those men and their children?
How come at least 50% of all marriages lasts.
Are there no women in successful marriages ?
It was obviously a generalization KIM.
I have to say..this seems like something you’d read in GQ. Not really “a conversation that no one is having.”
I agree with the above comment, but have not got enough time or ability to write that eloquently.
Another article about how men can have great sex by acting like a real man! To be honest I am fed up with these articles about men and sex and what is a man? Like the comment above – it’s time to grow up!
If this is the advice the wise doctor dishes out.. to the general public, then god help them!
“5 ways to ignite passions…but they’re not what you’d think.” — Actually, this cliched advice appears SO often that’s it is exactly what I’d think it would be. It’s just the old hetero-normative stuff – in the same vein as so many other articles here targeted at het men. As some of us are pointing out – the old hetero-normativity is not the best matrix, or the only matrix, for het men and het women to contemplate and embrace. In many ways, it is stultifying and limiting, and makes complex human beings into gender laden cliches. For example, the whole… Read more »
Amen. I was waiting for the advice to pull branches off trees and pound your chest. God, what a boring way to live. Like dancing when only one partner is allowed to take the lead.
Maybe the bride-bed brings despair
For each an imagined image brings
And finds a real image there
But the world ends when these two things,
Though separate, are a single light
When oil and wick are burned as one. (Yeats)
Brilliant response. Love this quote from Keats: “Maybe the bride-bed brings despair For each an imagined image brings And finds a real image there” Right now, 70% (or more) of divorces are initiated by women, with a whole bunch of them being initiated for just this reason. They gorged themselves on Disney, on Romance novels, and married a persona, rather than a person. When he turns out to be just another bozo on the bus, trying to make his way home – she is crestfallen and disappointed. Her desire for him dries up, and she starts looking for the EXIT… Read more »
If you feel this strongly about Disney and romance novels then you must also equally feel that pornogrpahy, and men’s tendency to gorge themselves on that, has greatly shaped their inability to productively contribute to a relationship just as you believe of women yes? Or is it that women are somehow worse then men and prone to things men aren’t because of men’s superior standing?
I am a woman who has been married to the same man for 37 years. I don’t see anything wrong about the suggestions, statements and advice the good doctor gave. Do any of you know anything about staying married to the same person for decades and that it entails being good for and to each other because nothing else matters. Paul you don’t know anything about why women divorce men. I am a former divorce lawyer and the reasons are abuse, unfaithfulness, failure to take care of family, simply not being committed to a marriage, and on and on.
Hi Erin,
You are probably right, to some extent.
Then again, Disney usually enter and start shaping our aspects of life at a much younger age than porn does. And I guess that most boys also internalize the hero stereotype from kindergarten stories that they must somehow risk their life (to slay the dragon/kill the wolf/win the war) to be worthy of a woman’s attention.
One thing I believe is that in every committed relationship there is a high desire and a low desire partner. This is for every issue – especially sexual desire. To further this conversation, there are also differences between masculinity and femininity (which we all have both to varying degrees but are usually more one than the other). Even within same sex relationships, one partner will be predominately masculine and the other feminine. This is the foundation of this post – I do like your statement … “When women grow up – REALLY grow up – they find their OWN strength,… Read more »
Paul. your response was better thought out and more cohesive than the article, in my opinion. I read the article and was underwhelmed. I read your response and found myself thinking F*k yeah!
Congrats on the well thought out response.
Paul’s response is better than the article! Dear occasionally Dr. As a woman, may I point out what women want when they have sex? Orgasms!!! At least one but two or more would be lovely! What should you do to keep your wife happy as a wonderful husband? Make sure the big Os happen like clockwork EVERYTIME…very simplemarriage.com see? (don’t believe shitty magazine surveys that claim women are fine with not orgasming…they aren’t! When they don’t, that’s when they go into the ‘I gave you the best years of my life and got nothing in return’ rages…give them orgasms!) Also,… Read more »
I had a girlfriend for 5 years who (almost) always after a sex session would exclaim “Why Don’t we do this more often?!?” And yes, orgasms were achieved, usually several on her behalf, with yime and commitment involved. Finally I grew tired of the circumstances and straight up told her that the only reason we didn’t do this more often was that she would turn me down 9 times out of 10! when I tried to initiate or seduce her. And no, I didn’t use to nag her endlessly every day about it. I would ask maybe once or twice… Read more »
There are times when we can challenge the old stereotypes and I think there are times when we need to accept that sometimes those defined tropes are true for some. While I agree with you that hetero-normativity may not be the best matrix for everyone, the fact that an article is written with hetero-normaitive archetypes does not mean someone is attempting to limit the way you personally may want to live your life or is trying to claim that’s the only way to live ones life. By the way, the archetype of the “hero” is not a Disney influenced archetype.… Read more »
I don’t know how this will come across on this site, but I am a man who finds himself desired by a lot of women. I don’t always seek it out but I have come to recognize certain things that make a difference. I don’t point this out for my ego, but only to back up a couple of points that I want to make here and that women have made to me about other men. Some of them echo the article’s points, but I think there are are also a few VERY SIMPLE THINGS that men can do to… Read more »
@Peter,
Terrific advice for men.
I would add under Clothes: Make sure you wear a nice pair of shoes AND they are cleaned/shined on a regular basis.