If you’re a guy who can’t get any action, this is a fixable problem.
Some 28% of today’s young men are having NO sex, but most of them are making the same mistakes. You can avoid them once you’re aware of them.
In my role as a dating coach, I’ve seen many clients enjoy amazing sex lives after fixing these errors.
So, let’s find out what they are.
1. They Don’t Think They’re Good Enough
Modern women are wealthier and more independent. They don’t need an average man to take care of them anymore.
Plus, they’re now overwhelmed with attention from men on dating apps and social media. This trend has seen women raise the standards for who they consider dateworthy. In fact, studies show that only the top 20% of attractive men see results from dating apps.
So, it’s little surprise that average men don’t think they’re good enough for average women. They’re uploading their photos to Tinder and getting no attention. They slide in women’s Instagram DMs and get no replies. They watch YouTube videos where every woman says they deserve a 6ft+ man who earns six figures a year.
The dating market is tougher for men. A lot of them are giving up on finding their dream woman. Many who approach women in the real world do so in a half-hearted unconfident way.
The good news is: it’s easier than ever to rise into the upper percentiles of desirable men. Most modern men are weak and sloppy. The majority have no idea how to approach a woman confidently. If you can learn to do so, you’ll stand out and have a great chance of landing a date.
That’s what I learned how to do — and my coaching clients have seen great success by following in my footsteps.
2. They Don’t Know What To Say
There’s a percentage of men who do feel good enough for women, but have no idea how to make something happen.
These guys often worry about creeping a woman out, even more so since the rise of social campaigns surrounding ‘toxic masculinity’.
So, if their online dating profiles aren’t among the best, these guys often also end up sexless for years.
These guys are the easiest to help. They just need to learn a few skills about starting conversations, asking women on a date and smoothly sealing the deal once a woman likes them.
3. They Don’t Think They Can Change
These first two problems are fixable with the right guidance, but the man needs to believe he can change.
If he doesn’t think he can transform into a dateable man, he never will.
He’ll keep self-sabotaging. His voice and body language will continue to give away his lack of confidence.
You have to see yourself as an attractive man before others will see you that way.
4. They Won’t Admit They Have A Problem
Most men have no problem seeing a doctor if they’re sick. They’ll hire a coach to help them learn guitar or to perfect their golf swing. Yet, they’ll rarely admit they need help connecting with women.
They assume that attracting women is something men should magically understand, even though the stats show that isn’t the case.
Ultimately then, men will refuse to admit that they have a problem and choose to suffer alone instead.
5. The Media Tells Them Everything Will Be OK
Many movies and TV shows feature shy and nerdy guys ‘getting the girl’ without completing any self-improvement. Usually, they just prove their love with a grand gesture.
The media feeds average men with the narrative that everything will work out. It teaches them to just be patient and their soulmate will magically appear.
That’s not how reality works. But it’s a lot easier to swallow than having to improve themselves to become more attractive.
So, a lot of men remain lazy in the hope that their dream girl will accept them for who they are. Many of these will remain in the 28% who NEVER get laid.
How Can A Sexless Man Fix The Situation?
If you’re one of these guys, a great first step is to work on your self-esteem.
This will help you approach a woman with swagger and confidence. That can make such a positive impact, especially now so many modern men are afraid to do this.
From there, get comfortable approaching women and flirting. There are many expert online guides or coaches to help you with this. The more you practice, the better you’ll get.
It’s a simple solution, but it’s not easy. You’ll have to overcome your social anxiety. You’ll take a few rejections. But, before long, you’ll meet a woman who’s excited to sleep with you.
That’s how it worked for me and so many of my clients. You got this.
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If you struggle to capture or maintain a woman’s attention, my book Big Dick Energy will help you.
It features 12 powerful exercises to help men unleash their natural masculine energy and attract amazing feminine women.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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