Not every marriage can be saved. If yours was, GMP wants to learn from your experience. Now accepting submissions.
“Real love is a choice.” When we talk about marriage and commitment, we use the word “choice” a lot. We choose partners. We choose our spouses. It’s a touching sentiment and one I am fond of.
Throughout the course of our relationships, we will be challenged to “re-choose.” Not many people talk about this dark time in marriages. You’ve been hurt or betrayed. You feel worn down by constant arguments. You’re discouraged, aching, and tired of being let down all the time.
The blame game starts. Words become daggers. The silence become violence.
You start to think, if you have to be lonely, you’d rather be lonely alone.
It is in those moments and in those times, when couples have to “re-choose” their partners.
It’s fine to say “yes” to the romance, common hobbies, companionship, and love. It’s harder to acknowledge that doing so also means agreeing to heartbreak, disappointment, and times of doubt, ambivalence, or regret.
Someone mentions divorce. Sometimes, the other partner doesn’t even argue about it. You’re sitting in the moment. You’re on the brink and you have to re-commit to the relationship.
Have you been there? Is this your story? Is your story something totally different?
How did you save your marriage or committed relationship?
GMP invites you to share your experience so that others can learn, commiserate, and possibly be inspired.
- What’s your story?
- What do you think you and your spouse or partner did differently?
- What was the thing that saved your relationship when so many others fail? Was there a difference maker?
- What was the best advice you received? The worst?
- What advice would you give other couples who were facing the possibility that their marriage might end?
- What’s the secret to surviving the dark times?
Email your submission or questions to: [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you.
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