Alexis Meads helps one GMP reader decide.
Question/Advice? If a guy is interested in you, he’s calling you or messaging you right? or am I wrong? If a guy says it’s been a busy hectic day and isn’t messaging you, then he’s not interested?
Thank you for writing in with this question that I know oh so many of us have agonized over!
Of course, the true answer is always the same: that it depends on you and your specific situation.
There are times when we’ve all just had a hectic day and the last thing we feel like doing is reaching out to others. If this is the case and it’s not a regular thing, then I wouldn’t assume that he’s not interested. We’ll give this guy the benefit of the doubt!
That being said, if you find that he’s consistently making excuses, or not getting back to you, then there’s a good chance he’s not interested. From my experience, if a guy is interested when we’re first dating he will message or call. It may not be every day, but I know I can count on him to follow up. Because we’re never “too busy” for someone we’re head over heels for, right?
If you’ve been messaging or calling him with little response, then the best thing to do is to give it space. In the beginning of a new relationship I think it’s important to keep a little mystery involved by not going overboard with messaging. But don’t confuse this with playing games.
If he still isn’t getting back to you or taking the initiative, than I’d say move on! It’s not the end of the world if he’s “just not that into you” as the famous book says…it just isn’t a fit until it is.
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