Question: I truly enjoy dating the woman I am seeing, but dating her is like dating her entire family. Whenever we are together, she is 57, her kids constantly stop by and interrupt our night. She is a kind woman and I don’t want to say anything to upset her, but how can I get her to know that we are constantly being sabotaged by her children?
Answer: This is such a great question and I completely understand the frustration you have that every time you want to have a romantic evening or one of deeper communication or connection… you get interrupted by the adult children stopping by, yes?
It’s curious, she is a kind woman and you don’t want to say anything to upset her… yet if she’s kind… wouldn’t she be more open to hearing your truth and not overreacting? Or is her flavor of kind more of a wall flower where she is the very same way with her children…kind to a fault? Letting them walk all over her? Is her kindness a front so as not to upset her children when in fact she’s giving her power away to them… kind of like you are doing with her? Giving your power away in fear of upsetting her? Am I totally out to lunch here or is this what’s going on?
If so, what a wonderful opportunity for you both to move beyond fear of upsetting each other! Whoohoo! Time for you both to open your courageous hearts and speak from your truth for the highest good of your evolving relationship AND the unleveling of her relationship with her kids so THEY can also have healthier relationships.