Question: Allana, I am having a hard time trying to find a balance between masculine and noble badass. My wife loves it when I take charge but at the same time, she wants me to be sensitive to her needs and feelings. I feel like when I take charge, I am too much man but when I am sensitive to her needs, I am just one of her girlfriends.
Answer: I absolutely love your question. And I love that you take charge and I love that you are sensitive to her needs and feelings. My invitation is not to ping-pong back-and-forth but to integrate both into who you are so that you don’t feel torn, instead you feel integrated.
There’s never a need to close your heart and there’s never a need to turn off your cock! However there is a dance and it requires a healed heart, and grounded presents, and the capacity to navigate intense emotions, and the capacity to be an allowance even when things are scary and stay connected, it requires you allowing your woman’s emotional storms while still being the banks of her river… So much of what you’re asking is an internal job that will externally allow you to feel confident and certain and free as you support your wife and both of these energies.
Definitely download my complementary training for men found… www.GetHerToSayYes.com called ‘How To Be A Noble Badass’ because this is exactly what I teach about!!! There is an exercise that I go more deeply into on my “Get Started” navigation tab… in my program called ‘Get her to say yes 101’ and also in my two book to audio product called ’Scoring a Relationship.’
It’s about penetrating her in three (3) ways, through your eyes and through your heart and through your cock. I sense that you may be disjointed in this, not yet fully integrated in all of your capacity which is making you question how to find balance, making you ping pong in uncertainty, rather than integrate them all into your whole.
Balance isn’t a goal, it’s a moving target with moving polarities requiring you to always be present moment to moment. Women are the most unpredictable ever changing creatures on the planet… what worked yesterday will almost certainly not work today… so stay fluid present and connected! There is no quick fix my friend, I’m sorry!
It is more a development of your capacity to bring what’s required moment to moment no matter what it takes… while never leaving any part of you out in the cold… even if she wants you to be sensitive… she desires a sensitive ROCK. Even if she desires you to take charge, she desires you to take charge with HEART. Make sense?
Download the report and check out some of those programs for men. Then get back to me on how you’re doing. I don’t know where the uncertainty is coming from, so it might require some simple yet deeper healing in a series of private sessions in which you would want to apply for a complementary session at www.allanapratt.com/connect to see if you’re a fit for me to support you. You may be at a tipping point to heal whatever core cellular memories or subconscious programming is in the way.
I honor your desire to be all that you are for you and for your wife, you are outstanding and I’m so thrilled that you’ve reached out! Sending you so much love and so many blessings, Allana XO XO
p.s. Gentlemen…End the Fear of Rejection.
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Ladies…Be irresistible. Feel sacred. Attract him now.
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