Question: How do I move on from my past relationship? Will it always be my basis for comparison?
Answer: When the past is incomplete and we haven’t processed the lesson and integrated the wisdom… The past does keep showing up in our present moment and create our future.
Why did they hurt us?
Why did they abandon us?
Why didn’t it work?
What did I do wrong?
Where wasn’t I enough?
Why didn’t I see it coming?
These kind of questions can haunt us for decades if we don’t turn towards them and do the deep inner work and grow.
Once you’ve done the inner work to really get the lesson of what a relationship was providing you… you have a memory of the past, but it doesn’t trigger your emotions any longer. On an awareness level you will remember your past relationship but you won’t be in the present moment comparison of good or bad, right or wrong, resistance or triggering pain of that past comparison. Make sense?
Your job now is to sit in the fire and look at why are you attracted your past partner, look at all the opportunities for growth and evolution and learning… be able to say thank you for this relationship because you’re better stronger and wiser calmer… you’re a better communicator, you’re willing to speak your truth, you’re willing to risk rejection to live authenticity. This kind of mindset, yes?
When you can truly look into a past relationship with an open heart of gratitude, you are free. Then as you move forward dating again, the lesson has been literally integrated and you embody this new power as you date new women. There will be no comparison because the past is separate… the past has been fully processed and integrated into your being now. You will take this expanded growth into your next relationship as a gift to you and your next partner.
I will admit that sitting in the fire and saying thank you for something that really hurt you is intense and challenging! That’s way for almost 20 years I’ve had a thriving coaching practice for my level of unconditional love and non-judgment supports my clients in shifting their point of view, embracing their growth and letting go of the past once and for all. It allows them to dissolve the fear of rejection or any survival strategies that are keeping them single or attracting the same kind of issue or pattern over and over.
It’s the most beautiful and effective return on investment because it not only supports you romantically and personally, it also supports you professionally and spiritually because you are fully in your power in the present moment making wise choices of courage with an open heart.
If you’re a 10 out of 10 ready to receive potent partnership in letting go of the past once and for all so all comparison dissolves and you are free in the present moment, discerning and aware, making wise fantastic choices for a hot healthy intimate relationship, then please apply for a complementary strategy session with me at AllanaPratt.com/connect. It would be an absolute privilege to help set you free 🙂 All my love and blessings, Allana
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