Question: How do you tell your boyfriend of two years that you would be better of as sex buddies? As a couple, we suck but in bed, WOW! Is it even possible for two people to have chemistry between the sheets but not with each other any other time?
Answer: Very gently. That’s how. While it’s possible he says OMG I’m SO glad you told me cuz that’s exactly what would work for me too!… it’s also possible that this could be emasculating if he really cares for you deeply. Always error on the side of kindness, respect and honor.
If you are at a time in your life where you aren’t interested in long term relationships with anyone and you’d prefer to have him and perhaps others as sex buddies… then cool if he is cool. Yet if you’d like to be in a relationship and after 2 yrs of dating keep choosing him for only sex, then FIND another partner and let him go, it could really feel like being used or ditched.
In the video I go through a ‘sandwich’ to communicate your truth to him while honoring his feelings… who knows what will show up!? It might be most loving to set him free completely to be in a relationship with another woman… or he may love the idea of sex buddies… only honest intimate vulnerable kind communication will reveal the way.
I’m here as a guide, mentor, neutral loving non judgmental sanctuary for this conversation should you require support. www.AllanaPratt.com/connect. Thank you for reaching out to ask, it shows your caring nature and also your willingness to live your truth and not stay with someone when you’re not really happy. Bravo. Now what’s possible is you’re both able to be more fulfilled… great love, Allana xoxo