Women are diverse creatures with likes and interests that range all over the spectrum of life. The one likeness of each woman is that they love when their partner can identify and celebrate their interests. So from gamer girls to bookworms, celebrating your non-traditional woman this Valentine’s Day should be unique and fun.
Your Partner Doesn’t Like Valentine’s Day
What do you do if your girlfriend doesn’t want to celebrate Valentine’s Day, and how do you know if she is for real? Well, if your woman typically doesn’t enjoy holidays – then likely she doesn’t like to be the center of attention. It’s okay to still get her a cute card and a candy bar. Leave it on the counter to avoid putting her in an awkward position.
Your Partner Has Unique Interests
If your girlfriend is interested in rock climbing, stamp collection, video games, etc then you have an open window into the perfect Valentine’s Day for them. Think about their interest and plan a Valentine’s Day around it. An example is that I enjoy finding and collecting old books. A great Valentine’s Day for me would be dinner followed by a trip to Goodwill to find some treasures.
With unique interests, you have to be careful. You don’t want to purchase any items that she may already have nor not have any interest in, such as new rock climbing boots when she doesn’t need then. What you are communicating to your partner when you fashion a Valentine’s Day around their interest is that you know and understand them. That is the best gift someone could possibly hope to receive.
Your Partner is Picketing Valentine’s Day
If your girlfriend believes Valentine’s Day is just a day for businesses to make extra money, then the solution to that is quite simple. Take your woman out the week before Valentine’s Day. Tell her you wanted to celebrate your love and time together without playing into the marketing tactics of big brother companies.
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Or you can treat yourself to something with all the money you save by treating it as any other day. The question is how important is Valentine’s Day to you?
@John Gottman Anderson – Lovely to see you again! How a couple chooses to approach Valentine’s Day is their decision, of course.
Whynot make advertisements in magazines and on TV showing women buying men expensive watches or motorcycles rather than men buying the gifts like diamond rings for the women. Women giving men envelopes with airline tickets in or getting the check at an expensive restaurant…that’s not traditional and non patriarchal. I am sure your non Trad Feminist “partner” would just love those suggestions for expressing her love for you guys! Hey…see that tumbleweed blow….:-(