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You swipe right and maybe you get that match and then you fantasize all possible ways about how the date might pan out just to know that the person on the other end flaked. Maybe they perceived you as good looking or not in split seconds. Tinder can thus be easy or difficult!
Is it fair for the other person to judge you? Maybe not. The real question to ask is: Is it fair for you to be home and waiting for that right person to appear, play the entire text game after that and simply hope for a date? In your personal and professional life, you have to take complete responsibility for your actions and the way life is happening to you. You can never expect the clients to appear without putting in some work. This can be marketing, storytelling, building a brand and so on. The can believe the same is true in dating.
Before the online dating world, the best way to get a date was to go out, put yourself on the line, and take that risk. Irrespective if something worked or not, you got the real-life experience of what works and what doesn’t. This also means talking to people who otherwise might have judged you based on your looks, alone. The fact of the matter is that people are attracted to people who give them good emotions and make them feel better. Isn’t this what we as human beings crave for? Similar things happen in the business world where someone buys from you because they like you and because you have the solution to their problems or because you make them feel better about themselves.
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How To Build Yourself Internally to Exude Confidence
If you knew that you have to go out and make that approach and create an impression, you will most likely be aware that you need to become the best version of yourself where you exercise, eat healthily, read good things. In short, you are nourishing your mind and body and this automatically reflects on the external. You feel confident because you know that you are working on getting a little better each day. It’s a matter of time where you stating dating and you find that one person who is the right match for you and the rest is history.
In the business world, this applies in the exact same way because you have worked on building your brand name and the internal systems and processes to provide as much value to the outer world.
From my experience, the basis for personal or professional growth boils down to these six life principles:
1. Practice the art of storytelling.
In personal and professional life, you want to attract and keep the attention of the person in front of you. The best way to achieve this is to paint a vivid picture and describe the minutest details. This draws them in and you naturally become attractive. You can join improv acting classes, which is a lot of fun once you get the hang of it. The entire reasoning behind this is for you to get improve your verbal’s.
2. Test everything.
The real expertise comes from testing things in any aspect of life. In order to develop your style you literally need to try different things out and fail multiple times. Do you feel more comfortable being funny or a little serious? This can be the way you talk, the way walk, the way you dress, literally everything. This is how you deliver your marketing message in the most authentic way as well. Everything in the marketing world is based on testing and making small changed to create even better results.
3. Invest in a mentor.
If there was only one tip can that can help you achieve drastic results then it would be to hire a mentor and learn from the best. You can save a lot of time and this can literally put your progress on steroids. Learn from the best because this investment will pay off very soon if you implement everything that you learn from someone who has experienced and mastered it all.
4. Do one thing a day that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Nothing beats this because you are conditioning yourself to get out of your comfort zone. This can be going out and saying hello to a random person or asking that person out who you have been in touch for a while. In the business sense, this can mean making that first video, making that offer on your social media, writing posts, sharing vulnerable stories, and putting yourself out there.
5. Have at least one hour of ME time each day.
Great things happen when you focus on yourself. This is the ultimate gift that you can present yourself. Unless you can take care of yourself, can you really expect yourself to take care of your partner or your clients? This one hour can include exercising, meditating, journaling, planning your business day, going for a walk, doing things that make you happy and things that are beneficial towards your end goal. Doing this regularly can help you see a massive shift in your mindset and the way you approach things.
6. Never lose sight of your goal.
Always have the goal in mind. If you are not working on your own agenda then you are a part of someone else. Each action you take should be categorized as useful or useless and there should be no grey area here what so ever. This doesn’t mean that you should become a human robot but I hope you get the gist of what I want to say.
My hope from this article is that you apply these some or all of the six principles that have helped me become a better person on so many levels. I will be more than happy to answer any of the questions or learn from you about what has worked for you in your personal and professional life.
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