Question: I’m getting back into the dating game after an unwelcomed break-up. I’ve even been on a couple of promising dates. Problem is, I haven’t had sex since my ex and I broke things off. So, how long should I wait to have sex with someone I’m dating?
Answer:
Whatever your sexual choices are is your beautiful choice, my love! No judgement here and total honor of what is true for you.
Finding what’s true for you is tough when we’re empty, depleted, disconnected from our body, feeling needy, or aching for touch. Thus, my recommendation would be to self pleasure regularly so as to keep you full, overflowing, alive and centered in your body. This is true if you are a woman or a man.
Then, on a date, you are grounded, in your body, connected to your truth, and able to make the right choice for YOU about sex, not a reaction based on feeling needy.
LMK how that goes and if you have any concerned about the “unwelcomed breakup” that may be in the way of you truly attracting an ideal partner, let’s connect. Email my[email protected], say you’re from MeetMindful, and let’s see if I can discovered the core wound that could be in the way of you being 100 percent open, magnetic, and irresistible to your ideal mate.
Huge blessings and onward ho! Allana, xoox
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When the relationship is no longer about sexual attraction and you no longer desire it. That is when sex can appear on the table. Its the same as dating. When you are craving dating that is the time to be alone. When its furthest from your mind, that’s the time to start dating again.
“Whatever your beautiful choises are they are your beautiful choices ”
Is this really an advice from a intimacy expert ?
Realistically, what advice would you expect her to give? My first wife and I waited about 3 months to become intimate, and we were together for 9 years before she passed on. My second wife and I were all over each other 5 minutes after we first met, and we’re still going strong 4 years later. In each case, the time period was right for each of us.
I’m old school … it’s simple, wait until you’re married. It worked for my wife and I 41 years ago.
It’s not so simple. I’ve known far too many people who decided to wait until they were married, only to find out that they were grossly mis-matched as far as libido or other aspects of sexuality. Most of those marriages fell apart and ended up in divorce; those that didn’t had one partner suffering greatly.
My current wife and I were intimate about five minutes after we first met each other. We’re still going strong 4 years later.