Learn how narcissists keep partners off balance and stuck in relationships through the use of a behavior cycle that alternates between mean and nice.
This is the tool the narcissist uses to bring you down to their level. So quite possibly on their mean part of the cycle they will tell you how terrible of a driver you are as an example, even though you’re an excellent driver. Or that you walk funny. Or that you talk strange. Or there’s something wrong with your clothes or eating habits. Or the gifts you purchased for them somehow fall short of how good they should be … They try to get you to buy into the fact there is something really wrong with you …. Once you start getting frustrated, they might pull back from their mean behavior and throw you a bone of sweetness. Their act is so good, it makes you question if there was even a problem to begin with, or is it just all in your head.
What else is common, is that they usually devalue you on something that is a special hobby or interest of yours.
Think about the people who are supportive of you. Do they one minute praise your skills and then the next call you worthless?
Note: The video describes a narcissistic woman, but narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is actually more prevalent in men.
Are You a Narcissist? Michael Ellis on GMP TV.
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