– What does love mean to you?
00:12
– So.
00:13
I like to think of myself as
00:17
an emotional slut.
00:25
– I want to be emotionally penetrated,
00:29
before anything else.
00:32
Physically connecting with someone is great.
00:36
However,
00:37
I need the foundation of a human connection
00:42
before anything else.
00:45
By emotional slut,
00:45
I mean I am
00:47
pro casual,
00:49
emotional intimacy.
00:51
A lot of times,
00:52
it’s almost discouraged to be
00:56
open and vulnerable with people.
00:59
Especially in more casual encounters.
01:03
There’s this fear that,
01:05
if you’re soft and open,
01:07
and vulnerable and loving,
01:09
that that’s met with rejection.
01:18
Vulnerability, to me,
01:19
is what turns me on.
01:24
To me, I wanna hear someone talk
01:27
about all of the experiences
01:30
that make them the person they are.
01:36
The things that make them happy,
01:40
sad, the things that trigger them.
01:43
Just all of the things
01:44
that make them who they are.
01:52
You can find those intense,
01:55
emotional connections with people
01:58
in every moment.
02:00
So you don’t have to think of a future.
02:04
The fear of future shouldn’t stop you
02:07
from completely letting go,
02:10
and opening up,
02:11
and being loving with people.
02:15
I want to find those really intense,
02:18
emotional, intimate connections
02:22
with everyone.
02:37
My truest essence is
02:39
probably my ability
02:41
to be childlike,
02:44
connecting to my inner child.
02:47
A lot of times we only get those experiences
02:50
with people that we’re dating.
02:52
And we’re dating for a long time.
02:54
And, even still,
02:55
some people don’t completely open up
02:58
and let go.
03:01
I want to find those experiences
03:03
with my friends,
03:05
with my lovers,
03:07
whether they’re casual or long term.
03:11
I think that,
03:13
on a certain level,
03:15
everyone craves that emotional intimacy.
03:27
I think that’s really what everyone is after.
03:47
I guess what I’m trying to say
03:49
is that I think we should all
03:53
emotionally connect more
03:55
than just physically.
03:58
Because physically is fun,
04:01
but when it comes to emotional intimacy,
04:04
I think everyone should be
04:07
an emotional slut.
04:10
– Ding.
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