Getting a female to like you if she looks to have no interest in relationships is challenging, but not necessarily impossible. An ex breakup or unwelcome attention from another guy might be the cause of a female declaring she’s not ready to date or commit. Strike up a discussion or invite her out with a group of friends if you fancy a girl who doesn’t enjoy relationships. Respect her, being a good friend, and being patient are the greatest ways to get a female to like you.
1. Approaching a Girl You’re Attracted
Think about why you’d like her to like you in the first place. Ask yourself why you’re drawn to this particular female. Even if your desire is just physical or superficial, she could shun you. For example, If this is the only attention she receives from men, she may become jaded or feel undervalued. Think about what you want out of a relationship before contacting her.
2. Even If a Female You Admire Appears to Be Uninterested, Talk to Her
Start a discussion with her and build a nice relationship with her so she knows you exist. Don’t be overly aggressive or demanding when it comes to expressing your interest in a potential partner. Inquire about her or a topic of mutual interest, such as: Hey, I just began watching (name of the TV show). Tell us about your favorite character or season. If the weather is nice, your school is, or you’re eating anything, say so in general. To get to know each other, start by asking them for help with a project or schoolwork. Avoid bringing up sensitive topics such as politics or even former relationships.
Remember to be respectful. Respect her decision to stay single. Move on without questioning her decision. It is important to realize some people are not compatible. It’s crucial to recognize that not everyone gets along.
3. Avoid Sending Ambiguous Messages About Your Emotions
The word mixed feelings refer to the discrepancy between how others view you and how you see yourself. One of the reasons she may be uninterested in establishing a relationship with you is you offer contradictory signals. For example, you continually brag about going on dates or being interested in other ladies, or you often blow off friends.
Praise yourself without seeming arrogant. Describe a time when you achieved something you’re proud of or a time when you set a goal and then realized it. That tough English paper or math test, for example, but my months of training paid off in the half-marathon, and I’m thinking about running the full marathon next year, too. Be more forthright and honest about how you feel. There are several ways in which you may be delivering the wrong impression to others. Make it a mission to say something kind about someone else every day.
4. Be a Good Friend
Her lack of interest in dating might be a sign of something more serious going on in her life. Do not put any pressure on her to be in a relationship. You can only be the best friend and confidant you can be right now. If you are encouraging but not overwhelming, you want to be a good role model. Any time she has to deal with a personal issue like the loss or illness of someone close, this is critical. Make room for her and be considerate of her personal space. Don’t attempt to repair her issues or give her advice all the time. Let her know you’re there and ready to hear what she has to say.
Listen attentively. Refrain from chiming in with your two cents worth and hold off on making things better. Let them sort things out on their own and come to their conclusions. Incorporate her into the ideas you’re making as a group. Pick her up or pay for her transportation. No strings attached, simple acts of kindness may have an enormous impact.
5. Have a Casual Conversation with Her
Keep in touch if you already have a close friendship and wish to take things further. Spend time with her as part of a group and ask her out indirectly if you’ve just met them or are simply acquaintances. For this, you’ll probably need a solid conversation starter or opener. First things first: establish eye contact, smile, and introduce yourself anytime you encounter her. The next step is to strike up a general dialog. Inquire about her hobbies or accomplishments. Use this dialogue as a beginning point to build a connection based on mutual interests and/or ambitions.
Be patient; it will all work out in the end. When it comes to talking about themselves, some females are naturally more open and outgoing, while others are more reserved or bashful at first. Using corny pick-up lines is never a good idea. Besides being unprofessional, this might be insulting as well.
6. Ask a Girl Out on a Date
To get her attention, you can either immediately ask her out, or take a more indirect approach like asking what she intends to do over the weekend.
The strategy you choose will be determined by the circumstances and the people involved. Others include asking whether she’s ever been to a specific restaurant and wondering whether you’d want to join; or phrasing the invitation as an opportunity, like we’re both free on the weekend, so why not do something together? At this point, all you’re asking is for her to join you on a date, not for her to become your girlfriend. Make it evident that you’d want nothing more than to relax with them. Don’t ask her to be your girlfriend or talk about relationships.
When you approach a woman and make the first move toward an intimate relationship, be careful not to put her in a position of vulnerability. She may decline because she is afraid to say yes. Invite her out with a group of friends if she’s hesitant to go on a date with you. Get together with some pals and plan a picnic or supper and a movie night.
Above all, show her that you value and respect her. Respect her feelings, her views, and her goals. Knowing what she loves and dislikes can help you stand out as more than just another person in her life.
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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