Bryan Reeves can’t tell you how to score a date. But he can open you to the possibility of love—with anyone you find attractive.
4. Confident Sexuality
Oh, the sexual shame and disorientation that still runs rampant through our modern world. For much of my life, I wasn’t always clear what to do with the sexual passions that would rage through my body like wildfire. The world mostly taught me to hide them lest I be discovered for the perverted creature I apparently wasn’t supposed to be. So I often hid these passions from women, worried they would be frightened by me—at least until their tongues in my mouth gave me reason to suspect otherwise. As a result, I let countless available women slip quietly away who might otherwise have fallen in love with me had I shown them in healthy, heart-connected ways that I was, in fact, cherishingly starving for them and not content on loitering long in the friend-zone.
It took me a while, and admittedly, a healthy amount of sex with ravenous women, to realize that women are just as genuinely jazzed about sex as I am. Sexuality is a wondrous gift. It is nothing to be ashamed of. Wielding it responsibly, ethically and in ways connected to heart, is an art form. But when embraced and perfected, this art form can inspire the most intimate parts of our being to arch backwards in eye-popping ecstasy and dissolve us blissfully into love … even before actual physical intercourse happens.
Nothing says “I am a safe, strong place for you to relax your weary self” more than showing a woman I have no intention to push her to do something before she’s ready to. And nothing inspires a woman’s love more than a man in whose presence she can relax her weary self, knowing he won’t push her to do what she doesn’t yet want to do.
Into my pre-satisfied patience, then, she gets the great joy of offering her authentic gifts: her radiance, her brilliance, her smile, her love. And that’s all most anyone really wants to do in life: give their authentic gifts to the world, and to each other.
One could argue that other factors are essential too, like chemistry and timing. But could it be that we are all powerful chemists capable of creating love reactions simply by mixing in the right empowering ingredients?
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