Pain doesn’t change you; neither does education, adversity, or social interaction. Only one thing changes you.
Attitude – mental disposition – determines the impact of life events.
The most neglected growth opportunity
The same events produce different results.
Two people experience the same crisis. One is enriched; the other impoverished. The difference is attitude.
Education makes fools of some and sages of others. The difference is mental disposition.
Mental disposition establishes trajectory.
Stagnant dispositions:
#1. Disrespect.
Disrespect is putting yourself above others. Your insight, for example, is more valuable than anyone else’s.
Disrespect simmers into stagnation because it has a closed mind.
#2. Defensiveness.
Defensiveness says, “It’s not my fault.”
Defensiveness is cousin to blame. Defensiveness says, “There’s nothing wrong with me.” Blame says, “There’s something wrong with you.”
#3. Disapproval.
Fault-finding is part of improvement, but don’t make it an Olympic sport.
Beware of the underhanded faultfinder; the person who tweaks everyone’s work.
Development dispositions:
#1. Generosity.
The dead sea is dead because water flows in but doesn’t flow out. You come to life when you make life richer for others.
The power of wealth is experienced when you give it to someone else. Remember you’re wealthy in many ways, even if you lack material wealth.
#2. Openness:
Learners grow. Knowers die.
When an unexpected person shows up at your door, invite them in. The thing that most expands your leadership is new relationships.
Think of irritating people as teachers that reveal who you are and expose who you might become.
When someone more successful crosses your path, ask, “What’s in their heart?”
What mental dispositions most hinder leaders?
What mental dispositions propel leaders forward?
Bonus material:
Why Is Leadership Development Important? | 4 Reasons | CCL
The Best Catalyst for Growth? Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone (forbes.com)
How to Develop Yourself: 8 Best Ways of Self Development (allresultnews.com)
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