Question: I love my kids (but I hate my wife). I tried to be the better man and marry her when she was pregnant. I stayed because because I believe in raising children in a two-person household and I would give my life for my children but if my wife was hit by a bus I probably wouldn’t shed a tear. Except for the fact that my girls would’ve lost their mother. I just can’t take it anymore but I don’t want to be unfaithful I don’t want to do anything that would make me lose my girls. I’m at a loss.
Answer: My friend my friend, you sound miserable. It sounds like you have so much anger brewing inside you that you are out of control projecting it onto your wife… which if you haven’t noticed isn’t doing any good, is it? And I bet you inside you’re also projecting it onto you, hating yourself for having married her, hating your situation, hating the life that you’ve created, yes?
All of this is very understandable yet have you noticed you aren’t asking any questions, like what can I do to change this? Like what’s it going to take for me to be happy? Like what’s it going to take for me to get a divorce and still see my girls? Like what is it going to take to show my daughters true healthy love even if it’s in two separate households? Like what is it going to take for me to let go of my limiting beliefs so that I can forgive myself and be free?
Beating yourself up and blaming her clearly isn’t doing any good, love.
Forgiving yourself and asking questions and making new choices is going to set you free.
Way easier said than done, yes?
And way easier done with the spiritual counselor who has the healing capacity is that I do to coach you out of your fury, anger and feeling of imprisonment… into feelings of allowance, compassion, courage and possibility as you walk through the fire. Love, it doesn’t sound like you’re going to walk through on your own because the anger is taking you down and out.
I’d like you to consider that you’re creating a toxic environment for your daughters and you have the power to change that by leaving. Nobody’s holding a gun to your head making you stay, you could bless your wife and released her and wish her well and set yourself free and create two healthy coparenting households in which your daughters could thrive. I’ll be straight with you, I highly doubt they’re thriving now and they’ll only entrain to the vibration of hatred (and I have to imagine snarky or passive aggressive behaviors) within your household. Then they’ll grow up and attract men to fight with just like what they’re watching. Can you see that? Kind of straight coaching, but absolutely true.
Bottom line is that you are miserable and you are also 100% creating your life. Thus I 100% recommend you apply for a complementary strategy session with me right away. Go to www.allanapratt.com/connect
Then, so long as you’re a 10 out of 10 ready to change this (not a 10 out of 10 ready to keep complaining and blaming and hiding xox) only if you’re truly ready to move forward, I will be your partner to help you release the toxic anger out of your body, forgive your sweet soul, and support you in creating a life of peace and joy… Because that IS possible. And that’s exactly what I do with clients all over the world and have for almost 2 decades. I am a blend of fierce potency and tender non judgmental love that helps facilitate miracles and lasting change.
Sometimes we get fat so far down the rabbit hole of anger, emasculation and disheartened woes… That we simply need someone’s loving hand to hold onto to pull us up out of the gutter and back into light again, love again, possibility again, yes. I get that. I’ve certainly been there.
It all starts though with a choice. A choice that I can’t make for you. A choice that you have to make of willingness to change this hell and create peace, joy and love in your world again… Starting inside your heart, and then in your family and life. Set your wife free, I recommend you stop sending her so much hatred or it’s going to eventually bite you in the ass. And it keeps you stuck where you are, rather than lifting your chin to the horizon and creating a new world of peace.
I wonder what you will choose.
Only you can make the choice to move forward and create a life you love. I’m simply here to facilitate the journey and guarantee a path to your lasting happiness. And the happiness of your girls now and in their future.
Massive blessings, Allana
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