First off, let’s begin with the obvious question. How do you know someone loves you and wants something serious with you?
Well, it isn’t a lie that there’s no one way to tell. But I can tell you without fluff how to know where you stand with someone you want something serious with. And I’ll do that in the next ten or so seconds.
Here goes. If you know where you stand with your man, you wouldn’t feel anxious and stressed. From the endless search for validation for all the mind-blowing feelings you have for him.
I thought so because I know that in such a situation, you’ll know whether you should cut your losses and move on. Or enjoy your relationship confident that you aren’t in a one-sided situationship.
So, lemme give you a no-fluff sneak peek of what you’ll notice when a man is eager to be with you. That’s void of all those half-baked truths out there making it seem like a man acting lovey-dovey means he’s serious with you.
1. You Have a Strong Emotional Connection
When someone often opens up and becomes vulnerable with their emotions. It often means they want to welcome you into their world.
To be more specific, when a man shares his feelings and desires. And also his fears and insecurities with you, it’s often because he wants you to be a part of his world.
Because when your man is often being his vulnerable self around you, there will be a strong bond. A sense of alignment and intimacy between the both of you. What’s more? This bond will go beyond simple physical attraction. Having a good time together. Or even intellectual similarities.
Hence, you’ll both feel a strong emotional connection that’s as strong as your physical attraction to each other
The lesson is simple. A man who loves you enough to want something serious with you. Will seek a strong emotional connection with you rather than physical pleasures from you.
2. He Values and Respects Your Boundaries
I’ve written about this countless times so far. Because I do believe that someone who loves you will value you enough to accept your boundaries. Hell, he’ll even be happy to respect your boundaries and differences.
Being with such a person means you’re with someone who will often value your decisions. Instead of forcing you into things you aren’t comfortable with.
It means he doesn’t take you for granted to expect you to always say YES. And comply with whatever he says, wants, or does irrespective of how they make you feel.
Because someone that always pushes and tests your boundaries. Even when you’ve countlessly told them what you like and don’t like. Might not care about things going south or about losing you.
Often, such kinds of people will easily manipulate you into relaxing your boundaries. So much that you’ll feel it’s cool for them to trample all over you as they wish.
At the end of the day, this will create in you this tension. Stress. And even resentment that might leave you wondering if they love you at all. That’s why it’s rare for someone who does that to remain in your life for a long time.
3. Your Partner Is Honest Enough To Be Up Front With You
All these point to one thing. A man that loves and wants something serious with you will let you know without a space for doubt.
He’ll go as far as addressing your doubts and insecurities about him. And your relationship in the most sincere and convincing way he can.
He won’t take too long to bring up topics about commitment. Neither will he allow your conflicts, disagreements, and resentments to go unresolved. So many people are often confused about where they stand with the person they’re seeing.
But I’ve always known one thing about this: A man who wants more than a casual relationship won’t just give you hints. But will come up front and tell you. He’ll be honest and open enough to define the relationship and won’t keep you waiting for too long.
Three years ago, when I met my partner Sandra. It didn’t take long for me to tell her that I wanted something serious if she was up for it. After noticing how well we click. And how we find each other so refreshingly compatible. Even outside of roaring hormones. And other fun times which could be possible with almost anyone.
That’s just it. If he wants you so badly enough to want something serious with you, he’ll communicate so.
There’ll be no need to leave you drowning in anxiety. And stuck in that awkward space between courting and being an official couple.
How refreshing and relaxing!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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